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writes: He and i were fwb in the past but we're just friends now. I went to see him at his place because he's going away for a month and we wanted to see each other before he left. We've always been pretty flirty around each other but nothing has happened since our FWB thing ended because he has a girlfriend now who lives near him. He lives hours away from me. Anyway, we just sat and talked for a while. We talked about what both of us had been up to etc which was nice. Then I helped him pack his stuff for a while, in his bedroom. After that he started cuddling me and being affectionate. I only stayed for an hour or so and when I went downstairs to get my coat he hugged me from behind and started kissing my neck. I didn't know what to do so I just laughed and turned around hugged him goodbye.He text me when I got home saying it was really good to see me and did i want to go out and do something when he gets back. I keep thinking about him and I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't want to help him cheat on his girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): You are okay with being used for sex? Helping him cheat on his GF? YOu have that low self esteem to not tell the guy to piss off and find a REAL BF of your own?
The guy is an idiot douche cake. What is so great about that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh, and calling me "a 4" is pretty hurtful. I'm not unattractive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTrue. I just don't understand why he'd do that if he cared about her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): The only criteria a guy has for a FWB is she at least has to be a 4 on a scale of 1-10 and wants to have sex with him. A girl he considers at least an 8 on looks and personality who wants to have sex with him is someone he makes his girlfriend.
"I guess i'm just confused why he wants it with me when he already has a girlfriend." Because you are at least a 4 and he didn't even have to leave the house to possibly get serviced while his girlfriend was busy. As for the text, how often does he actually follow through on taking you out? Any particular reason you think you won't be the one going out of your way when it's convenient for him?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 January 2012):
 he wants it with you when he already has a gf because he thinks he can get it...
remember the old saying "women need a reason to have sex men just need a place"
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, it's pretty obvious he wants sex. I guess i'm just confused why he wants it with me when he already has a girlfriend.
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reader, Read-the-signs  +, writes (27 January 2012):
When you went round there he would have been up for sex, just like old times. And that is what is on the cards in future if you see him again. That means he cannot be truly happy with his girlfriend, but it doesn't necessarily mean he wants you to fill that role, it could still just be a sexual thing to him. Proceed with caution.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (27 January 2012):
 Yep, he's suggesting sex. That's what the kiss and the text means. To say he's disgusting is an understatement, because he seems to have zero morals. You do know what "do something"when he gets back means, right? You cant be that naive!
He's testing the waters to see how you react. If you're still up for it, he doesnt mind a bit of fun on the side. The G/f wont get to know, he'll have sex with you, go back to her, put YOU in the risk of STI's because he's obviously also sleeping with God knows how many women....and oh...you're going to be the one who ends up alone in this entire episode, because eventually at the end of the day, he goes back to the girlfriend, while you are pining for him, but cant do anything, because its an FWB thing, right? How can you complain?
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