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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Is my bf taking me for granted?Haven't seen him since tuesday (well wed morning but all i did was drop him off to work). It's friday night and i texted him asking when I can see him next. He responded with "I don't know... I have a 21st tonight... soon ".Should i be pissed he can't even give me a day? He hangs out with his best friend EVERY friday and saturday and usually only comes to see me on sunday evenings.What annoys me is he never alternates weekends. His best friend was overseas for a couple of weeks and in both of those weekends he asked me if i wanted to hang out which i said of course. Now he's back it's gone back to being the same.We've been dating for 7 months and only became official last month.Thoughts?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 September 2010):
You're a 'Miss Casual' - in that he wants you around when he feels like it, and nothing more. Basically, you're with the wrong guy if you're looking for anything truly committed. His friends will come first for a long, long time.
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reader, DenimandLace  +, writes (3 September 2010):
 Yes he is taking you for granted. He cant decide if he wants to be a single guy, or someones boyfriend. I believe in keeping your friends while in a relationship, but they shouldnt take all your time.
I think part of the problem here is that you are too available, and you are enabling him to behave this way.
Next time you think he may call, make plans to be out with your friends. Do not be so available. He is not having to work on this relationship at all. You are doing it all. Just stop already. If he is shaken up a bit you will find out if he really is invested in this relationship at all. If he's not, then you need to move on. Do not allow yourself to be anyones doormat. Denim
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