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writes:I've been in an off again on again relationship for over half a year now. Honestly, I am getting tired of this. If I refuse to spend time with him and instead spend time with my friends, he gets very angry. He'll give me dirty looks and tell me that I 'hurt him'. When he's having a bad day he will ask me to sit really close to him, and I hardly feel comfortable doing so. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2015): He shouldn't make you feel bad for seeing your friends. That is a big red flag at any age and at any stage of a relationship. Nobody should make you feel uncomfortable either. He sounds a bit controlling so that you put how he feels first. You might be best to create some distance so you can 'see' all this more easily. Less intense? Spend time with friends for support as you do so.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 December 2015):
 If you are not comfortable sitting close to him then don't do it, tell him the truth and if he gets angry over it then he doesn't care about you really he just cares about the idea of having a girlfriend.
At your age you should have a healthy balance in life, this means spending time with your friends. If he has a problem with this then it is his problem. Show him you won't be taking away from your friends and arrange to spend time with him when you are both free.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (17 December 2015):
 I think you are both looking for a different kind of relationship at the moment. You need to have a quiet talk about this - what your needs are compared to his. Perhaps you can reach a happy compromise in which you spend some time exclusively with him, but you have time alone to be your friends. I hope it works out for you.
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