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writes:Alright, so there is this girl who lives in the room next to me in residence at university and about 2 weeks ago she mentioned that she and her boyfriend had broken up but she seemed to be over it from what I gathered. Anyway, since then I have really wanted to ask her out but since we are in the middle of exams i didn't think the timing would be right. Now her last exam is today ( the 14th) but she isn't moving out until the 16th. So my question is this, is it too late to ask her out with only 2 days until she leaves?
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reader, mrg123  +, writes (14 April 2011):
 Hmmmm for your own piece of mind the answer is go for it id say because i get the distinct impression it will chew you up if you dont. If it's meant to be it will be, if it wasnt it wont, in the long run you lose nothing. I'm not sure how this is going to go, I think those who are expressing a note of caution have a point actually especially about the rebound danger but sometimes the taking part not the winning is the point.
If your looking for reassurance then I think with everything there might be a qualified no but maybe in the longer term you never know. I dont know the time frame but be advised you might think she is 'over' her last relationship because you want too for obvious reasons because it benefits you. You maybe reading something into something because you want too, not because it is.
Good luck and let us know what happens :)
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (14 April 2011):
 Go for it!!Its never too late. You have nothing to lose and at least you would be stuck with the regret..."what if I had asked her out...."
Life is too short for what-ifs' and if-only's. Go ask her out.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (14 April 2011):
 Of course ask her out, but it may go no where and don't push it. Try a low key relaxed place and do something nice. tell her you admired her from afar and did not ask her before as she was in a relationship. You may only be able to establish a tenuous conection. But who knows? your paths may cross again in the future and if you behave as a gentleman this time she may think fondly of you when your paths cros again in the future.
Good luck.
PS - nothing too 'over the top!'
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2011): It probably is, but it never hurts to put yourself out there... men are the hunters. I think you should ask, or at the very least offer to help her pack and bring dinner. She may be overwhelmed with trying to clear out of the dorm, so at least you'll get points for the knight in shining armor role.
It may also be a good opportunity to keep in contact over the summer, visit during the summer, or have a basis to start a relationship when the new term starts.
The only negative to this advice is that stress of final exams may have contributed to the break up, and she may have time (after exams) to re-think her breakup decision. You may end up being the rebound guy.
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