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Has my boss noticed that I'm attracted to him and repulsed by me?

Q.   I'm married (unhappily) and have been working in a new place for about 4 months now. My boss is also married and is the same age as me. Things between us were going great. In terms of work he defends me to others, favours me, buys me little work ...

A.   20 April 2012: I agree with Moo, I think he's realised that he has actual feelings for you but is unsure on what he should do. If you have serious feelings about him then maybe you should approach him and find out once and for all. All this thinking and wond... (read in full...)

Has my boss noticed that I'm attracted to him and repulsed by me?

Q.   I'm married (unhappily) and have been working in a new place for about 4 months now. My boss is also married and is the same age as me. Things between us were going great. In terms of work he defends me to others, favours me, buys me little work ...

A.   20 April 2012: I agree with Moo, I think he's realised that he has actual feelings for you but is unsure on what he should do. If you have serious feelings about him then maybe you should approach him and find out once and for all. All this thinking and wond... (read in full...)

From time to time I struggle to deal with the loss of my short term relationship and doubt that I will find love again. Why?

Q.   Sometimes I still feel like I'm struggling to get over a short term relationship I had some months ago. Don't get me wrong, I'm a stronger person than I was and I feel a lot happier within myself. I just miss the connection me and my ex shared and I ...

A.   11 June 2011: Was he your first love? If so then its understandable, the first person you fall in love with will always have a piece of your heart. You should have a conversation with the guy and see how he is. If he has moved on then it might give you the ... (read in full...)

He's awesome and I'm really not; what should I do? Should I try to become as good as him?

Q.   I'm going out with this guy, and we're happy and it's all hunky dory, except... He gets good grades, and can play a bunch of different instruments, and knows a bunch of languages fluently, and he's good at art, and is a black belt in karate and a ...

A.   11 June 2011: You know what he likes you as you are as you said he asked you out. This shows you that he likes everything about you and that you do not need to change. You must never try to change for a guy, he thinks your perfect as you are. So accept it and ... (read in full...)

I could be "the one" for him, but he pulled back

Q.   About six months ago I started becoming really good friends with this one guy, and I now consider him to be one of my best friends. We both like each other a lot. We started hanging out a lot more and we would do stuff such as kissing, etc. but we ...

A.   10 June 2011: It seems as if 'your friend', isn't sure about anything at the moment. All you can do is be there and help him decide on what he wants to do and hopefully it'll include you. ... (read in full...)

Can we be friends when he's moving on and my heart aches?

Q.   It could be a saying that TIME HEALS the PAIN. But when Im sensing these lines, its become unfulfilling. My 2 broken relationships have left me devastated and being unable to think of anyone is all because of the trust and fear if the person who l...

A.   21 December 2010: I think becoming his friend would just hurt you even more, you're obviously not over him so you should try to stay away from him, you should move on, there's someone out there for you just keep looking and I'm sure the third man you fall in love ... (read in full...)

Advice please!!! What does he want from me!???

Q.   Sorry for the long post, I don't know how else to give a better idea of what I'm dealing with than to tell the whole story, lol. I have been in a "friends with benefits" relationship with a guy for about 8 months now. We'd been "seeing" each ot...

A.   13 June 2010: It's obvious that you really like this guy, but you just need to have a proper conversation and ask him where exactly do you two stand. Just admit to how you feel and i advise that if he just wants to carry on this 'unknown' relationship just cut ... (read in full...)

We both had a great time... so why have I not heard from him?

Q.   I've been with this guy for 3 years. On and off. I recently ended the relationship just because it wasn't going the way i wished it had gone. So we took time apart... a month or so... recently we agreeed to be friends and we went to a movie and a ...

A.   13 June 2010: I really do not know what you want to here. But you need to ask yourself this question "Can you actually be friends with this guy?"..."Will one thing ALWAYS lead to another?" As soon as you have answered these qu... (read in full...)

His constant cheating is breaking my heart...

Q.   My boyfriend's character towards me changed since two weeks, i find out that he is cheating on me. what do i do? i came to his house and saw a girl inside his car, i called him to let him know that am around he just shouted at me that i should have ...

A.   13 June 2010: You are worth so much more than that. You need to leave him and let him realize what he has lost. There are plenty more fish in the sea so go catch them and flush this one down the toilet. x... (read in full...)

Guy at work, is he interested or something?

Q.   I'm interning at an insurance company, this is my second week. I'm a headhunter, this guy is an insurance agent so sometimes he's in the office, sometimes not. Anyway first time i met him was last week at the door. He was staring at me for quite ...

A.   14 May 2010: i think you should just wait and see what happens and if you're really into him then do something different to make him notice you - bright red lipstick or a snazzy new haircut ... (read in full...)

Wife doesn't satisfy me sexually like past loves...

Q.   my former girlfriend was raw with me in bed,she made me feel that no other woman can give me hot sex,now am married and cant find such satisfaction in my wife,yet i love her,what do i do?...

A.   14 May 2010: just be honest tell her the truth...and try and spice things up with her im sure it'll make an improvement... (read in full...)

Did I experience an orgasm?

Q.   Hey guys, I just wanted 2 ask a kind stupid question, but oh well...well basically it first happened when my bf was rubbing me over my trousers, i got this amazing feeling which made my whole body get hot and it makes me feel so tight kind of ...

A.   9 October 2009: yes i guess you did get one...and by the way its not dumb to want to ask these question thats why we are here.... (read in full...)

Will my boyfriend eventually get bored?

Q.   Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we had our ups and downs but have decided to stay together and work on our relationship. Our sex life is wonderful we both make sure that the other is properly satisfied. We do everything including oral and ...

A.   9 October 2009: i dont think so it seems as if you have been together for a long time and you both seem satisfied with one another. Just make sure everything goes as smooth as it is going now. ... (read in full...)

What should I believe? I'm disgusted and don't know if he's cheated...

Q.   I recently found an email conversation between my boyfriend and another Guy that was very sexual. He told this Guy where we live and told him to meet him in the 24hr gym to have sex. My boyfriend says he never went but a follow up email from the ...

A.   9 October 2009: well you hav the proof which tells you he his cheating...sit him down and tell him what's up and that if he doesnt tell you the truth you and your sin will leave him.... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant but my husband wants me to abort the baby!

Q.   I am 38,my husband 46, we both has a daughter from previous marriage, 15 and 13. Now I am pregnant, but my husband does not want the baby. He wants me to do abortion. what I should do? He even wants to divorce! Help!...

A.   9 October 2009: Do what your heart is telling you to do, dont go into shock just because he's playing the divorce card...you'll regret it later.... (read in full...)

Why do our b/f's insist that we swallow?

Q.   I have been dating my b/f for 6 months now and we haven't had intercourse yet. I told him several times that I am saving myself for marriage and he calls me a priss all of the time. He claims I am sexually pent up. But I take care of his needs ...

A.   25 September 2009: i have no idea, honestli i wuldnt do that either untill i was married, do not let him force you to do anythin yuu dont want to, if it dont feel rite then jus stop ... (read in full...)

I don't want to be another guy who breaks her heart, but I don't know how to be candid with her

Q.   Ok this one is really complicated I have this girlfriend,she's 22(and has a child) and I'm 18.We've been together for a month. We really like each other alot. Her heart as been broken many times, so she's lost all trust in men,so she think we...

A.   25 September 2009: well i think you should jus tell her the truth now, because of you do hav sex with her and she fonds out later then she is jus going to think of you as one of those guys jus afta one thing. just tell her its the best thing to do.... (read in full...)

Frequently late periods ...

Q.   my wife always geting peroid late. 2-3 times she geting period late. but she not pregent. 2 years back we married. but i thought she pregant last month but some time timea brownish clour water cuming.some time time like dropd blood coming. but now ...

A.   25 September 2009: soo wats the problem?? ... (read in full...)

I know he doesn't want a relationship so whats going on?

Q.   Hey! Im sorry for the length of this but i really need some help for my own benefit. I met someone must be two years ago now and liked him for a year and a half.I've never ever wanted a bf, yea ive liked someone but never thought anymore of it ...

A.   25 September 2009: well....you can either jus deal with the way he is around you or yuu can go up to him and ask him whats goin on, i understand that you dont want to ruin your friendship buh it seems as if this is realli annoying yuu and yuu need to get sum closure ... (read in full...)

He's 6 years older than me but I really have feelings for him, its an online romance

Q.   Ok so basiclly i'm quite young and i live in another country to this other guy who is 20 and 6 years older than me and he isn't a perv or nothing due to the plain and simple fact i lied about my age i look older anyways and i'm more mature so when i ...

A.   25 September 2009: oh my god, are yuu serious....you need to carm down you havent even met him and yuu want to go to anotha country to meet him!! people online arent who they say they are if hes serious about yuu than he can cum to yuu as hes oldah and it wuld make ... (read in full...)

Cant get over her even after 9 months and we're both still single!

Q.   i dated my ex for about one and a half years and we were really tight together. she broke up with me exactly 9 months ago, saying she doesnt love me enough. we have been friends since then and i'm still not over her. we got together for movies, etc ...

A.   25 September 2009: what i mean is tell her how yuu feel, if she hasnt got a new man by now she must be holding out from some reason, maybe she feels the same way as you.... (read in full...)

Is it right to have sex before marriage or is it better to wait?

Q.   Is it good Sex before Marriage? We have seen many questions from teens who loss their virginity in teen age and some boys and girls wait for his/her life partner and enjoy the virginity loss with his/her life partner. So, is it right to have sex ...

A.   22 September 2009: its bettah to wait it shows that you respect your body and lets yuu hav a lot of self respect.....it might seem hard now buh it will all be worth it aftah yuu get married... (read in full...)

How do I build a wall between me and this colleague...?

Q.   I had sex with my colleague, whom I have fancied for a long time, (I never hinted that I liked him though), he has been having fantasies about me as well. So, we did it but spoke first that there won't be feelings involved, as he has a girlfriend ...

A.   22 September 2009: these things happen its all a part of life, just try and concentrate on your relationship with your boyfriend, do something to take your mind off him, im sure its jus a crush keep me updated xx... (read in full...)

Cant get over her even after 9 months and we're both still single!

Q.   i dated my ex for about one and a half years and we were really tight together. she broke up with me exactly 9 months ago, saying she doesnt love me enough. we have been friends since then and i'm still not over her. we got together for movies, etc ...

A.   22 September 2009: first of all how rude of you to sai shes far from good lookin......it aint all about the looks the persons peronality count too. secondli jus ahv a heart to heart with her, jus open up but dont kid around or she wont think tht you are tkin her ... (read in full...)

I want to sleep with my sister.

Q.   My sister 6 year elder then me see is marred and see live her husband and see have a 6 year old baby. She only come my home only when her baby school close during summer. But see is so beautiful my question is I want to sex with my sister But ...

A.   26 April 2009: honestly i think dont this is, not even a question to ask... this is your sister and you shouldnt even think about sleeping with her!!... (read in full...)

I want to love him but I don't know how...

Q.   I am married but I dont love my husband. I dont like his physical appearance thats why I cant accept him physically..But I still married him for 2 years because I was afraid of being single. I thought I will fall in love with him once we get married ...

A.   26 April 2009: You are not supposed to force yourself to love, you're supposed be in love beforehand... if I was you I would finish it, tell him how you feel and go and find your soul mate.... (read in full...)

Afraid exs family will cause problems for my family

Q.   i am in a predicament as i have not seen my kids for nearly 3 years and i am getting to the stage that i want to see them again,my new partner has her reservations regarding me seeing the kids and not a selfish level but on a level that we used to ...

A.   26 April 2009: i think that you shold go alone to this family and tell them about your intentions and make a date when you go and visit your children and make it a regular thing so that your children can start accepting you in thier lives.... (read in full...)

My husband is converting to Islam and wants ME to convert too!

Q.   I was shocked by what I found around the house when I woke up this morning. There were a lot of prayer books and a copy of the Koran (is that how you spell it??) lying around, plus some other Islamic literature. I asked my husband why there was Is...

A.   26 April 2009: just pull him to one side and force him to listen to yuu tell him dt yuu do not feel the same and dt u will support him buh nt do the same thing ... (read in full...)

I'm so attached to him... should I break it off or tough it out?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year now. Just to make things clear, I'm 15 and he's 20 (Yes, I know this is illegal). We met online and eventually met up in person. I currently live on the east coast, and he lives on the west ...

A.   26 April 2009: i think that if you love someone then you have o hav things yuu hate bout them- as opposited attract jus tell him hw yuu feel nd tell yuu wnt a man who kn provide for yuu!... (read in full...)

I really hope you can help me. I'm in such a mess.

Q.   Hi, I really hope you can help me. I'm in such a mess. You see, there's a guy who i've liked from the very moment i saw him. It was certainly an instant attraction, me and him soon became friends and all went well until i drunkenly told h...

A.   26 April 2009: i think that you should go up to him and jus explain everything and if he truly likes you then he will believe you than from there you can tell him how you feel kill 2 birds with one stone... (read in full...)

Started dating my ex gf's friend but now she wants me back! I want heer back too,, Help!

Q.   Hi. Please help! I'm 21 years old and in a relationship which is seemingly going no-where. It all started 4 years ago when i dated a girl, who i was madly in love with. I lost my virginity to her and everything seemed perfect. Then one day, ou...

A.   26 April 2009: i think that you should stay as you are because how will you know if your ex is not ready again nd dumps yuu, then you will have no-one to go back to just stai wid yur girlfwend for the meanwhile and see wat happens after dat...... (read in full...)

I hate my dad because he cannot offer me the lavish lifestyle that has been my dream!

Q.   hello dear cupid, i am 22 and i have a strange problem.... I hate my dad! i know he is my god and my caretaker...but still i hate him because he cannot offer me the lavish lifestyle that has been my dream although he has always provided me with the ...

A.   26 April 2009: sorry to be the one to say this but i think you are being childish... your dad is trying to support you but maybe its time for you to go out there and support yourself...chase your dreams yourself!!... (read in full...)

I feel he's getting too friendly with this girl...

Q.   Okay I'm new at this so I dont really know how to write what I want to so I'm just going to give it a go. In November my boyfriend of two years left to go travelling around the world for a few months and he will now be back in four weeks. I didnt go ...

A.   26 April 2009: i think that you should just trust him and if he acts fishy when he comes back then just end it! ... (read in full...)

Do I go home and live my life without him or stay with him and be unhappy?

Q.   Hey guys, i have an issue that has been bothering me for some time and i dont know what to do and how to deal with it. The problem i have is i have been with my boyfriend for about a year now and at first everything was ok, a bit hard because of my ...

A.   26 April 2009: i think that you should carry on your relationship with him but just move home and tell him that you will most probably move back when your heavily pregnant so you can be a proper family!... (read in full...)

What would YOU do?

Q.   So. Here's a wee situation for you. You see someone you have really strong feelings for every weekday, and you're pretty close to them. You know you'll only ever be friends, you understand that. You know that you're going to leave, and that if you ...

A.   26 April 2009: i think that you should try and talk to him and say you want to kepp in contact otherwise you will ost propbabli regret it and if things go wromg...who cares you're moving!!... (read in full...)

My married boss wants to take me to dinner and to his beach house.

Q.   I think my married boss likes me. He wants to take me to dinner and to his beach house. I would normally think this is wierd and way wrong but he has also said his intentions were just to be friends but he also said I cant tell anyone that we are ...

A.   26 April 2009: i advise you not to go imaging how is wife will feel when she finds out....jusy put yourself in her shoes hw wuld you feel if you found out that your husband was taking other women out on dates!! avoid it!! its a no no... (read in full...)

I'm afraid she thinks our relationship is moving to slow.

Q.   Hey again. This isn't much of a question. More like a thank you. I'm the one who asked what to do next with my girlfriend. The few replies I got actually worked! But I had a problem. We got caught and I got detention. They don't allow PDA ( Public ...

A.   26 April 2009: i think that you should do somethin really romantic where no-one will be.....like a secret picnic at the park just the too of you on a nice sunny day!!... (read in full...)

Why does my crush's friend act this way around me?

Q.   I've had a crush on this guy all year. I've never told anyone and I'm to shy to try and drop hints. He has this friend that I don't even know. Whenever I walk past him in the hallway he will look at me and he watches me walk down the hallway. If I'm ...

A.   26 April 2009: i think that you should pull your crush aside and ask him straight up 'whats up?' then jus go on from there ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my b/f's uncle!

Q.   Hi , well here's my situation ... I'm 14 years old, and I'm completely in love with a 24 year old. Believe it or not, I know its not an infatuation. If you, yourself, are in love- then you KNOW you are in love, you don't question it. Now, this...

A.   26 April 2009: i think that you should go round to you bf's uncles house and tell him your true feelings and he feels the same then dump your bf and make a go with him...........and if he doesnt i tink yuu should still dump your bf and go out there and look for ... (read in full...)

I'm falling for a guy that my sister used to fancy! What do I do??

Q.   I have started dating a guy I really like and things are going really well. He is really into me too and it would seem I have nothing to worry about at all. We have a sexual relationship and things are great in that department too. The problem is ...

A.   26 April 2009: i know you dont want to cause any friction between your sister and yourself but if he likes you and you like him then whats stopping you? just pull your sister aside and have a talk with her 'clear the air' and just carry on with the relation... (read in full...)

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