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*roubledgurl
writes:I've got a little problem and i need help urgently. . I just agreed to date my teacher and i don't know if i did the right thing. .pls advise me on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): Although it may not be morally wrong, I agree with JuiceMario. If you're their student, it raises a conflict of interest. It's unprofessional, and that's what seperates it.
Profession (or age) may not matter in other cases, but the fact that he holds your trust on a regular basis, makes this more serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): Are you in love with him or did you agree to go out with him because he is your teacher and he asked?Because you should never go out with any guy you don't like, just because he asked and you don't want to say no!But if you are in love with him, I don't really see the problem. It could be a great experience, and I know a couple who have been married for twenty-five years. She was 15 and he was her 22-year-old teacher. They now have kids and everything.It is against the law, but if you both are truly in love, the law shouldn't stop you from following your heart. Good luck with everything!
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reader, Troubledgurl +, writes (2 April 2010):
Troubledgurl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for the advice. . .i will try and see what i can do about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): can you give us more details? what is the age difference? are you his current student? have you graduated yet?
why does he want to date a student in the first place
plz be more specific
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reader, veraciousone +, writes (2 April 2010):
 but then again if this teacher was not a teacher lets say this person was a fireman it would all be good right no problem.
why does being a teacher give new rules and laws that dont even exist.
lets see 22 year old teacher dating 18 year old high schooler = bad idea
22 year old fireman/self-employed worker dating 18 year old high schooler = no problem??
why not just ban all type profession sort like relationships like
doctor prohibited from dating patients, or lawyer thier clients, how about even banning coaches from any sport date any athelete...
why should teacher be the only ones put under the microscope
why not just make all students legally be minors??? doesnt the law say 17 is the age of consent and considered to be an adult
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reader, UncleDoug  +, writes (2 April 2010):
Hi Troubledgurl,
I must urgently recommend that you immediately contact your teacher and cancel the date. What in the world has transpired between the two of you to date that would suggest to your teacher that you two should become more personally acquainted?!?!?
The fact that things have progressed this far is disheartening.
You may not understand the concept that your teacher has a "fiduciary duty" to you. He is a person who is charged with protecting you from harm or danger, and his actions (of asking you out or accepting your offer to go out) are in direct conflict with this responsibility. Moreover his actions are UNETHICAL, UNLAWFUL AND FELONIOUS.
I cannot impress upon you enough the absolute impropriety in your teacher's actions. When you no longer attend the school where he teaches then you can act accordingly, but I strongly suggest you end things with him and have nothing more to do with him beyond the usual teacher-student relationship.
Please please consider your actions. I know you do not want to hurt your teacher but I suggest that you inform the school principal about this matter.
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reader, JuiceMario  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 I don't think it is right for a pupil to date their teacher at all. Your teacher is in a position of trust and by dating a pupil is abusing this and could get into serious trouble!
I'm not saying this because I have anything against relationships with big age gaps, I've had a fair few myself.
I think you should stay away from this teacher except for when you are being taught.
If you start this, I can guarantee you will regret it in the future.
Let me know how you get on
Good Luck! :-)
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (2 April 2010):
 This is not the right thing to do if he is still your teacher and being in his position he if fully aware of this. Don't do it. You will end up getting used. If he is NOT your current teacher and you have graduated that's different.
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