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writes:Is it OK or am I look like a desperate, girl-with-no-life kinda way if I like to share and write stuff about my life to this guy I met some time ago.See, he's military I met him in a mission, and obviously I like him awfully a lot. I decided to initiate contact with him back then and he responded. I got used to email him and he emails me when he feels to updating me with important things too.B/c of his job, he's always busy so IDK if it's OK to email him that much, I would like to do it once a week but I think he doesn't like it cuz he only writes every two weeks or similar.It's not like I don't have more friends but emailing him makes me feel like having someone not connected to my life in which I feel good sharing things with. He had said he enjoys our friendship and emails.What I fear is if he will look too much to email him every time I feel like, cuz he's a not mushy guy who cares about my well being but Idk where to stand with him. What do you think?I mean should I tell him that although I know he's not able or don't want to reply always I feel good emailing him cuz I really want him as a part of my life at least as a friend to whom I can share thoughts, etc. as he may do it sometimes.
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 I think it is perectly ok to e-mail him once a week. That isn't obsessive in any way. Telling him that it makes you feel good having him to talk to is also perfectly acceptable. It is only when you e-mail every day - unless it is reciprocated - that it could be annoying. This chap is obviously very busy and maybe only gets the time every two weeks to really sit and think about what you are saying and to read them properly. I would think he enoys the diversion and they are not heavy in anyway. I would continue as you are. Even if you are wanting more from this man and I sense maybe you do - I would still continue to be light and friendly in your correspondence and ask about him and what he is doing, giving him the opportunity to share things with you.
You are behaving quite naturally to my mind and I would just continue as you are.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Hi,
as long as you are being honest with him, then emailing him once a week is hardly being obsessive.
And I'm sure if he doesnt want you to then he will simply not reply to anything you say. So I really cant see the harm.
I'm sure he loves reading about your life, but if you want to include things which you know he is interested in, that always helps with guys.
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reader, lonely101  +, writes (3 July 2008):
Have you tried asking him if you're emailing him too much?
Maybe instead of emailing him every week or so you could write the email, save it until the following week then go back and add to it and take the things that seem redundant out.
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reader, LilzDon'tKnow +, writes (3 July 2008):
 You should keep emaling himm but keep your options open to guys around you
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