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writes:When I met my new wife I had just gotten divorced. I had only been with my ex-wife so didn't have much experience. My new wife had been married twice and had two children. I'm not overly endowed so I was very nervous about having sex with her for fear of her not being pleased with my size. When we first had sex I realized that I had been totally mistaken for thinking like that. She asked my why it took so long for us to have sex and with an answer that changed my whole life I told the truth and told her I was just worried that I wouldn't be big enough for her. I wasn't expecting what she said next - she said she was glad I wasn't big like the last guy she was with. I felt like someone just hit my in the stomach. I know she was trying just to make me feel better but for a guy that's not what you want to hear. It took me awhile to get over what she said. The problem is that when I did get over it I found myself getting aroused by it. I started asking questions and found out that she had slept with quite a few guys and one of them was really big. I am now totally turned on by the fact that she did sleep with all those other guys and quite a few were hung. I'm not wanting her to sleep with other guys. I just love hearing about the guys she was with. She thinks it's weird that I feel this way and to tell the truth I also wonder if it's normal for me to feel this way.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 February 2016):
 I find it normal. In the sense that not everyone gets aroused by this, but plenty do. I do. It's under the category of "forbidden" things in my book. You get aroused by it because you shouldn't, so it's forbidden in a sense, and this is the reason why it turns you on. The idea of you not being supposed to know. Like a peeping tom, or a voyeurist. You aren't watching in the present, but you are indeed watching (in your imagination) something intimate that you're not supposed to watch. This is a very common fantasy and something that is a turn on for many. In your case, your fantasy is about your current partner and her exes. In my case (oh yes, I love this forbidden fantasy as well) it's a fantasy of hiding in the closet while I watch someone else having sex in the room.
Fantasy is not the same as reality. You don't have to want her to have sex with another man, for you to enjoy the thought/fantasy of her having sex with another man.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 February 2016):
 I don't know that it's anything good or bad. I know that I can get turned on thinking of my partner with someone else.
And as for her liking a smaller penis over a larger one I'm with her. A large penis HURTS.
IN the case of a penis bigger is not better.
and for most women the penis is not what pleasures us as much as the hands and mouth attached to it.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (16 February 2016):
 Do I think it's normal? No, I don't. It suggests to me that you are more concerned with the sexual act than the person. You are feeding some fantasy. You need to consider well what is happening in your head that is driving these thoughts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2016): Everyone is different, and everyone gets turned on by different things. Some people like feet, other people like to be spanked. Some people like to dress up as babies, and others like to be in leather.
It's not weird at all. I wouldn't worry about if it's 'normal' or not, because at the end of the day what is normal? It's not illegal so don't worry.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (16 February 2016):
Ive heard of this phenomenon quite a few times before. Still dont understand it though. My only guess is there is a genetic predisposition for certain males to assume the role of a cuckhold, just as there is the opposite predisposition as exemplified by RJ.
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