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writes:I thought I was hot but fiancee is bringing me down! seems like he likes to look for random (and free) places to view naked pics of chicks. seems to happen daily to some degree and I also thinks he looks on his phone at work. he seems to especially like naked pics of real girls who aren't that much better looking than me. I know guys like to look but we've only been together 3 years and the sex has dwindled. when we do (rarely) we do it in the dark or his eyes closed. can't remember the last time he's wanted to look at me naked. what's going on here?
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (12 March 2009):
 Wether or not it is normal, it's bringing you down. Was this something he was up front and honest about, or did you stumble on this information by accident or curiosity? Guys are guys, and if sex hasnt been an event in the bedroom, they will find release elsewhere. My husband does it too, and I have never considered myself to be unattractive (except now, as I am 9 months pregnant, lol). I see it as a small price to pay for falling asleep early at night instead of making love to him. At the same time, I enjoy being with him sexually, and would be super bummed if we made passionate love and soon after he was hiding in the bathroom with his cell phone. Talk to him, and make an effort to distract him from the habit.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (12 March 2009):
 Confront him, there is a problem here! Tell him your problems, tell him how you feel about each of them when they happen and then tell him wht you need. Resolve each issue wit a solution which both of you are happy with. For example 'when you look at naked pics it makes me feel .....I need you to......we could resolve with.......are you happy or do you have anything to say?' By planning the conversation out into stages and key points then it will help it to flow and you will have evrything out in the open. X
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