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writes: help! i keep all my feelings inside like this week my brother lets call him 'a' had an asthma attack..so my parents attention is put on him. then people who are supposed to be my best friends let call them b and c put stuff in my drink which makes me sick and i end up going to hospital. a couple of days later b and c get one of their friends to send me a text saying wer watching you and wer gna get you.i manage to keep all my feelings under my control until today and then i started having a go at my parents which they dnt need at the mo. help what can i do? is there something wrong with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone i'm dealing with it now
my parents want me to go to councilling and im thinking about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks i've reported them and hopefully something will happen about them soon
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (20 July 2008):
 I'm happy to hear that you were able to tell your parents, that makes me feel better that you are listened to and believed. Getting detention doesn't seem like quite enough of a punishment to me, but I guess that's what the school can do. I have a little list that I want you to read. It's about how you might be feeling AFTER something bad has happened to you and how you might be able to deal with it. Okay? Oh, and did you visit that website I sent to you? It might help to be able to hear about other's experiences and see how others cope too.
Here's the list I mentioned:
The American Counseling Association recommends 5
ways to help with coping AFTER a crisis situation.
1. Recognize your own feelings about the situation and talk to others about your fears. Know that these feelings are a normal response to an abnormal situation.
2. Be willing to listen to family and friends who have been affected and encourage them to seek counseling if necessary. [I don't think this applies to you as much.]
3. Be patient with people; fuses are short when dealing with crises and others may be feeling as much stress as you. [Doesn't this sound familiar?]
4. Recognize normal crises reactions, such as sleep disturbances and nightmares, withdrawal, reverting to childhood behaviors and trouble focusing on work or school.
5. Take time with your children, spouse, life partner, friends, [I add parents too] and co-workers to do something you enjoy.
So good for you for telling your parents, you were very brave and did the right thing. Now don't keep your stress and unhappiness hidden, as this won't help you feel better. Be sure to tell your parents that your snapping at them is because you are still stressed by the whole situation. That should help them understand you and will help you feel a lot better, I hope!
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reader, atlanta--x  +, writes (20 July 2008):
Keeping your feelings inside is never a good solution you need to let your emotions out and talk about it to someone. Maybe you should try and talk to your parents but if that is really not an option then maybe you should try talking to a stranger.
B and C are not really your friends if they are going to put things in your drinks that make you need to go to the hospital and send you texts like what they did. You need to find new friends as soon as possible friends that are going to be there to help you with your problems and not create them.
I hope you take my advice into consideration.
Atlanta xx
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (20 July 2008):
 No, nothing is wrong with you, it's those people you call friends!
I'm sorry sweetie, but they are no friends of yours if they purposely make you so sick that you must go to the hospital and texting you threatening messages.
That's called bullying, not friendship.
You need to tell a trusted adult what's going on, maybe not your parents if you feel you can't talk to them, but I'm sure they want to know what's going on with their daughter; regardless of your brother's condition, they still love you.
Try the site Tisha-1 has given you.
Take Care
XO
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reader, PoliticalyLawful +, writes (20 July 2008):
That's called poising, you could get them in serious troulbe for that. Do your parents know why you were in the Hospital. Do you know what the put in your drink? If you tell me these i could give you some legal advice.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 July 2008):
Hi, this sounds like bullying to me too. These people are definitely not your friends anymore; that must be very hard to taks, sorry to hear that. The thing is that you do actually need to tell an adult that this has been happening. I really would like to think that you could tell your parents; even though your brother has asthma, you're still just as important to them and they would like to help I'm sure. They may be confused as to why you seem so angry at them right now, and it would help clear things up with them to tell them the truth.
If you feel you cannot tell your parents then you must find another adult who can help you. An aunt? A teacher? A coach? A grandparent? Maybe your pastor or minister?
Here's a website that might help you think things through a bit.
http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/index.asp?area=main
I think your parents really deep down in their hearts would want to help you.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni did tell a teacher and i told my parents..they rnt my friends anymore. and they got a detention which isnt very good to me.
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reader, saltwater +, writes (20 July 2008):
 Hang on, your friends put stuff in your drink?
"Friends?!"
These are not your friends. You don't need to have a go at your parents...you need to TALK to them calmly. It is understandable that they are concerned about your brother....but to me these friends sound like they are bullying you and your parents need to know about it! Do your parents know the reason you were in hospital because of what your friends did?
Maybe tell a female teacher at school what is happening with these "friends"...because it sounds like bullying to me.
And it needs to stop!
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