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male
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30-35,
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writes:Hey everyone, I'm hoping someone can shed some light on my current issue. A friend of mine (we'll call him person A) met this person over the internet. They fell in love, and I (person B) was supportive of my friend as I was told of this person he met (Person C). Anyway Person C moved from their hometown to here for Person A. I was concerned about having feelings for person C as all the girls in my school are for one reason or another not appealing to me. So Person C came here, I met her, she's everything I wanted in a girl. So eventually I found myself having the feelings I'd had for other crushes aka, butterflies, tongue tied, happy to see her, etc. Anyway one night I'm over at Person A and C's house, and person A gets tired and goes to sleep. By this point Person B and me Person C, have become close friends, probably one of the closest people I have in my life, and I'm close in hers. Well she tells me she likes me. Just like that, out of the blue, that she likes me. I kinda shrug it off, and we talk about it a bit and then it kinda drops. She falls asleep and I'm awake all night thinking about this. Things go back and forth for a bit and tensions start to run between Person C and A, and A and B start to fight a bit over the fact that person C told Person A that they liked me. Person A and B have a big fight, and break off their friendship, and Person C and B are kinda unable to see each other, we occasionally go for a drive when we need to talk or when Person C calls me, saying she needs me. There have at this point been a few instances where Person C has contacted me on Facebook, or called or emailed, saying they need to see me. Anyway, person A hacks person C's accounts and realizes that Person B and C are kinda getting too close, like some things are said indicating something much more then friendship. Anyway, eventually Person A contacts person C with "call me ASAP" calling Person C is told to come get person B because apparently Person A doesn't "want them" anymore. Person C flies out of house, and is on the road instantly. Arriving a lot of tears and angry accusations are thrown. Person B and C go back to C's house. They spend the night together, and they both are at peace, they kiss, hold each other, and fall asleep. Person B tells C, they love her. C doesn't actually say it back. C goes back to A to try and fix things, and stays a few nights at A's house. C goes back with B again, and upon asked, she again can't say the I love you back. C goes back with A, B is slightly hurt. B gets an email explaining that C loves B but loves A too. Back and forth things happen, a push and pull game of cat and mouse between B and C. Current issue: C thinks B loves her because C actually feels/shows feeling back toward B, something B has never had happen, B has only ever felt for the girl before, the girl has never liked back. B is worried that C is right, that B only loves C because of the mutual feelings. B is also worried in general that he loves C for the wrong reasons, maybe it's not actually love only lust, not being good enough, etc. B wonders if C should just stay with A too, after all C went back to A already. B is also not sure if C loves B, or if it's a friend love.So does B actually love C or is it just a attention love?I apologize for the REALLY long post, but I felt it was necessary to explain the previous situation.I appreciate any help anyone can provide.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (29 July 2010):
 well i kinda knew what my answer was gonna be before reading half of it. you lost a perfectly good friend for what! or was he not a good enough friend that you went past the white line ? really shes playing you both and im quite amazed neither of you have noticed this she goes back and forth when she please can you really trust her not to be sleeping with a when she was cleary wanting both shes made that clear and neither of you have gone ive lost a friend and your playing us GOOD BYE! i know some people fall for the wrong person in the sense that they are with your friend or what ever but its up to you to make the right descion. i think you made the wrong one you should of told her from the start that shes with A and that unless she has no feelings for A then you dont want to know! seriously she is gonna get pariod and everything because she broke the same boundrys of cheating so its not a wonder shes trying to test your loyalty see if you will beg or not! if you think and feel you love her then that that! really its a mess and its not something many people would have gotten into really only those who are willing to risk things do what you have done and sometimes it doesnt work happily ever after! you betrayed your friend will one of your friends betray you just like you did! good luck
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