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writes:My boyfriend is a crossdresser as time hit gone on he has become more and more into dressing up for atleast the last 6-9 months he has been doing things like wearing my favorit lingerie while Im not home usually hes on Craigslist looking for other men to have sex with during this time my clothes get Destroyed. My favorit Things and then when I find my stuff ruined I confront him he will swear up and down that he had nothing to do with it. Is it possible that when he gets dressed up can this woman in his head take over and do things that he really doesn't remember? Reply to this Question
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (25 October 2014):
Dear OP,
I know some crossdressers and I've never seen one that had a multiple personality disorder. So, from my experience I really don't think this is a common condition for them. I do believe that many crossdressers have a truly "feminine side" in their soul, that they want to live, but they don't have dissociative problems and loss of memory. They don't feel like they have another person, a woman, in their head, they feel that despite their male body, they have not only male, but also feminine characteristics. They painfully feel different from the rest of the world and consciously look for people who understand and appreciate their love for crossdressing, as well as their feminine side. While not all crossdressers are gay, many of them are bi or bi-curious. And they would occasionally lie about their preferences and dreams to look more normal to others. I also have to say that for some crossdressers, it's less about living their feminine side, and maybe more just a specific fetish for underwear. I think that's called transvestism.
IF your boyfriend had multiple personality disorder, his personalities would "switch" probably also when you are around, meaning that you would notice that he suddenly acts totally different and then switches back and has incomplete memory of what he just did.
HOWEVER, since his crossdressing and gay "alter ego" only comes out when you're not around, I suppose he's just lying to you and playing innocent, instead of admitting he's online-cheating on you.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (25 October 2014):
Tell him you're terribly concerned about his mental health and are working on having him involuntarily committed for a short while. Perhaps that will jog his memory.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 October 2014):
 Are you saying, is it possible that, the moment he wears woman's panties,... he gets DID ( dissociative identity disorder, once known as split personality disorder ) ? with amnesia ?
... Naaah. Never say never with mental illnesses, but... barely believable. It does not work like that- anyway wwomen are 9 times more likely than men to have DID, and in general they do not have only one extra personality, but several.
The most probable explanation is always the simplest .
your husband is a big fat liar, who brings home his CL hookups when you aren't there , then he pleads amnesia.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (25 October 2014):
 And he hasn't sought help? I mean, WHO wouldn't be freaked out of their mind if they found out they had had sex and don't remember?
I think he is making up bullcrap to cover the fact that HE chooses to have sex with random strangers.
One thing is being OK with a cross dressing partner, but one that trolls for sex with RANDOM strangers? DO you not worry about STD's?
Are you OK with the cheating? Or is it an open relationship? Swonger relationship?
If not I would suggest that HE seeks help, and that you walk away. Being a crossdresser doesn't mean putting on a "persona" and whatever you do is OK, because it's "not really you" doing them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2014): hes probably lying , trying to save his OWN butt.
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