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Is it a sin to love your first cousin?

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Question - (7 November 2009) 8 Answers - (Newest, 28 August 2011)
A female Philippines age 22-25, anonymous writes:

it is sin to love my first cousin?

dear cupid,

i had a first cousin, love at first sight,,he courts me,

jan.26,2009,when i told him that i love him so much..

and he love me also..

apr.26,2009,we decided to have sex.

we love each other so much,,..but until such time our parents said that this would be a sin and if we continue our relationship but today,we are trying our best to fight each other...

what should we do?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2011):

i just saw this site.and found out that im not alone in this world.. wehave the same problemmy familyand his is againts us but we dont long as you love each other an you know that he makes you happydont give up then.. they are right just dont have kids.. goodluck

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2009):

well, good luck. i don't think that's a sin. that's called love. Jsut let things go. and see what happens. people will understand your love. and.. you know. after several years, who know? you guys will be still together? or... your parents would approve your marrige...hopefully.

just hope for the best. and keep loving each other.

time is too short to just let it pass.

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A male reader, SJC United Kingdom +, writes (11 November 2009):

I went out with my first cousin, so no. But I don't know what the law states in your country. I know here it's ok. Better check that out first.

We didn't deny we were cousins, but didn't tell people either. I know there is a lot of people who wouldn't understand.

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A male reader, halfpinoyboy Philippines +, writes (8 November 2009):

u and i have the same problem.but i don think its a sin , i don think it should be , love is love .

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009):

It is only a sin because religon say's so. The real problem you face is children, in south east asia there is a high rate of defects in children such as siamese twins extra or lack of limbs, this is not because it is a sin it is because of their traditions marrying cousins etc. It makes you wonder where the many limbed gods came from hey?

Love finds its own way to exhist between 2 people it does not seek out and find unrelated people it just happens, just dont have children please for the sake of your childrens health, now you know this perhaps you should think about the future and what it could and could not hold for you.

Good Luck.

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A male reader, generalist India +, writes (7 November 2009):

as long he is a human being i mean anybody is ok to love..

the problem is our society carries some preconceived notions about the way things should run....

and you really have to think on whether you love each other or not..

if yes then speak to your family members in detail and i'm sure u will find your ways...

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A male reader, tux United States +, writes (7 November 2009):

tux agony auntWell according to some, "loving" your cousin is a sin... just as having sex with them, but then again having sex outside of marriage is also considered a sin... In the Philippines(your flag), it is illegal for first cousins to marry, so in a sense having sex with him is a sin.

Beyond that, it is up to you what you want to do. Of course, some people may look at your relationship and question it a lot and these same people will have problems with accepting it.

Personally, i would say you would be better off moving on and finding another person to "love", but that is only my opinion.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009):

It is not a sin to love your cousin. It may be a "sin" to make love to your cousin and there is a difference. I think the correct answer depends on where you live. It is a sin to break the laws of the land and so your location will determine if it is a sin. mal *sigh*

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