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*izasch04
writes:So this weekend is my boyfriend's 21st birthday. I told him I would take off the day of his birthday and after. The plan was we would get drinks together or I would DD. Well tonight I ask him if we were still on and I get a text saying "sorry I have plans with my parents". I understand that your parents want to celebrate too but even if I got to see him for 5 minutes just to wish him in person happy birthday I would be fine. Instead I became upset. I became short with my text and plus I was driving so I was trying to behave. After a while he said do you want to come? I felt he was only saying that cause of how I am responding to him. I felt like if he told me no that is how he truly feels. What I am asking is am I wrong to be upset, is this a bad sign that he didn't want me around originally, and what should I do?
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reader, underdog  +, writes (16 February 2016):
I have to agree with the others. You have a right to be upset and you had made plans and he cancelled, not even mentioning to you about these plans with his parents.
He should of either said to his parents that he already had plans with you, or asked them if you could come along. He did eventually say it after he could say you were upset, however that's not the point and I'm my opinion, simply asked to get out of the hole he dug himself.
I think it was quite unfair what he did.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 February 2016):
 You both had plans together, and then when you went to confirm he said he was spending it with his parents instead. Off course you have the right to be upset. Not only did he change the plans you both had, but he also never mentioned it to you, he just told you when you asked was everything still on plan. It doesn't sound very considerate of him at all.
Have you both been dating long? Have you met his parents and do you get along okay? I think you just need to be mature about this situation, instead of being short with him and him guessing there is a problem, just be out front with him, no point playing games. Just tell him how it has made you feel and see what he has to say.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (12 February 2016):
 No, you are not wrong in being upset. You two made plans and he NEVER mentioned spending it with his folks and not you.
Now he may not have known that his parents wanted to celebrate with him, but he should have told you the minute he knew that and not waited for you to confirm the night out.
Does it mean he doesn't want you? I don't think I would go that far. I think he didn't want to disappoint his parents. That you would be easier to "make it up to".
And he SHOULD have asked his parents if he could invite his GF - he invited you because you cornered him. And he was HOPING you would say no, because he didn't know at the time if his parents would be OK with it.
I think he is being an immature prat in all this. It could have been solved OH SO simply.
I am curious though, how long have you dated? And have you ever met his parents?
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