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writes:I wonder if you can help me figure this guy out please?I had a one night stand at Christmas time with this guy who is a friend of a friend. I knew this guy vaguely before but only as an acquaintance I would see with my friend once a year over the Christmas period. When he left my house the next morning we kissed goodbye and I joked and said “see you next year”. A couple of days later he contacted me online and since then we have been chatting regularly. He lives a long way away from me so our only contact has been through online chat.A couple of weeks ago he said that he was coming up to my home town to see his parents and asked if I would like to meet up for a drink. I said yes that would be fine. Anyway, he was unable to come that weekend and he said he would come down the next but the same thing happened again. This was fine as I was quite surprised he had suggested it anyway and I had no expectations of meeting up with him again. Well, the next time we spoke he invited me down to his. I responded that I would be ok to visit him but didn’t make a definite date.My confusion is this, I didn’t expect to keep in touch with him at all (although I’m glad we did) but I’m not sure what his motives are. At first our online chats were quite flirty but now the conversations have more of a friendly tone so I am always careful not to give the impression that I like him. I’m wondering why he would even suggest that we meet up? Is he “testing the water” or simply being friendly?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answers.
I think you're both right, but what I'm not sure about is whether he is genuinely up for it or if he is just testing me to see if I am - as an ego boost I guess? I don't want to appear too available if he only wants to be friends.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (18 April 2009):
 I agree with the anonymous poster here, sounds like he's testing the waters for another hook up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): it seems to me like he wants sex again, usually if u jump straght into bed with a guy without making the time to get to know him first, then this is how he will see the relationship from now on, just sexual. i could be wrong, perhaps he does want to get to know you, but at the same time i think he knows what he can also get from you. If your fine with this thats great, but if you would like something different i would explain to him that you want to start fresh and take the time to get to know him x
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