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Is he seriously considering me to mother his child?

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Question - (2 May 2011) 11 Answers - (Newest, 4 May 2011)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Here goes...I've been seeing this guy on and off for almost six years now. Its been to the point where we have spent all our time together, we've fought, went out of down, just plain out, yadda yadda. Recently though he's been talking about having a baby ( the last time we started back speaking) but I didn't really take him seriously because we ALWAYS use condoms and have these spurts where we don't see one another for awhile. Well this week end we were together and he mentioned this baby again and we tried and he was told my last period 4/17 and that I was definetly ovulating but went ahead. Now I'm wondering, could I actually be in the process of egg meets sperm? Was this guy really serious about this baby because I'm in major love with him and wanted his baby for awhile now. To add he hasn't called or said anything about plan b or nothing. He is so different because before he would have flown to CVS for an accident.I know this is long but he is a very confusing man and I just wonder is he serious...what you think?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (4 May 2011):

Honeypie agony auntIf he was serious he would do his part to make the relationship work, not try to knock you up.

I can't imagine adding a baby in an dysfunctional relationship. There is more likely one outcome. You being a single mom with one mroe child. Now, if that is what you want..

I have seen it countless times married people (in people in long term relationships) who get pregnant to "save" the marriage, it usually ends in divorce. You two have been together for 6 years.. but there is not commitment from him what so ever. 6 years.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (4 May 2011):

eyeswideopen agony auntIf your relationship is on again off again then he isn't all that serious about YOU. So why would you bring a baby into the mix? Think about the welfare of the child rather than whether he wants to impregnate someone.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2011):

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Okay understandable, it won't make things "peachy" and it is tough because we aren't officially together but I have children already also... I feel I'm ready to have his baby and obviously he is to for us to take a step like we have... the original question is, DO YOU THINK HE IS SERIOUS. I'm not getting any younger and so isn't he and this is why...I love this man and I cannot help it...

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (3 May 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony aunti no longer even speak with the man I have children with.

a baby won't fix what's broken.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (3 May 2011):

Honeypie agony auntI hope you don't think that a baby will make it all peachy. With that said, it's your life.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (3 May 2011):

eyeswideopen agony auntI think you need it to work for months and months before you consider having a child. There isn't any stability here that I can see. If there is one thing I've learned after having three kids and nine grandkids is that children need stability and consistency to thrive.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2011):

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Yes definitely...I'm hoping it all works out this month for me...

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (2 May 2011):

eyeswideopen agony auntSure there is something there..on again and off again.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2011):

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Yes I actually want a baby with him...absolutely...six years, there is something there...

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (2 May 2011):

eyeswideopen agony auntOn again off again for six years with this guy and you think you should have a baby with him??? Good lord.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (2 May 2011):

Honeypie agony auntWhy would you even WANT to have a child with this man?

I mean, who cares what HE wants, what do YOU want.?

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