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female
age
30-35,
*ady in Love
writes:dear cupids,i love a man of great generosity and respect to me, we has been together 11 month now and we were planning to get married after a yearmy parents would only accept him as my husband only if he have a 4 room apartment and a 1200000 lira pounds a monthmy boyfriend only have a 3 rooms apartment and a 900000 lira pound a month income, so he worked another job in order to fit my my parents expectations, but the 4 room apartment was what made him made!through the 11 month together we had trust issues and in the last month the trust issue was solved, until two days previously, he began hiding his phone from me, disappearing for hours through the day with not convincing excuses, and he disrespected me often!i got so mad when i found two messages from his phone to an unknown number whom i called and was a girl!in my madness i broke up with him, i usually do that a lot in such situations and we usually get back together the second day when he apologizes and gives convincing excusesnow it has been 7 days till we have last talked, on the seventh day we met at work and talked very formally, as if we are total strangers, but when common friends were around he flirted and acted as if we have not broke up!i know my boyfriend, he never takes the first step, i need to tell him i love u so we could get back togetherevery one is saying that its my fault, and that my parents wanting all these stuff pulled him away!should i tell him i miss him and i want us to get back together?he didn't tell me who the girl was! saying that he wants her to remain something that confuses me when we are apart! s he a cheater?i have always seen him as a great husband and father material, but when he runs away from the first pressure he gets under is he really worth spending life with?note: it is traditions from where i come from for the parents to ask certain stuff from the husband to be
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reader, Lady in Love +, writes (6 May 2013):
Lady in Love is verified as being by the original poster of the question after multiple formal talks at work he called me tonight and expressed how much he misses me and how hard was it for him to move on and that all the irrespectfulness was because of the pressure he is under and he solely said that the name of the girl he sent messages to and reveled that she was his friends girl friend and that from our total nine days separation he learned to never ever let any ever outer pressure effect our relation ship
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reader, la femme jolie  +, writes (5 May 2013):
Your boyfriend may be looking for or may have found a woman whose parents are requiring less of him financially. If he appears to be pulling away from you, he probably is. You must sit down with him and honestly discuss these issues. If he's talking to other women, then obviously there are problems. Find out if he's still really serious about marrying you. If he is, you have the obligation to express your insistence that he stop communicating with other women. If he does not stop this, then you have your answer. It's more than just financial when your man has other women in his life besides you.
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