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writes:i think that i have found a guy who just like to flirt and that's all . we have been flirting with one another for now about 4 months, and he has not made a move to ask me out nor for my number.i think he is just a big tease . my question is, Is there any way to tell if he is a big tease? he hugs me and winks at me. does all this flirting. i have come to the point where i think he is doing this to me, and he seems to be not in a hurry for a relationship . i think he need to do something other that flirt with me . could you please help me? i am confused and do not know what to do other than just ignore him .
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reader, forever58 +, writes (9 February 2011):
forever58 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice. I think we all were right about him. No, I am not going to ask him out. I know he knew what he was doing when he was flirting with me. So I am now going to move on and avoid him when I am in church. I hope he gets the message. He will probably wonder what's going on, but he will get the picture in a little bit. I just hate that I did not catch on sooner than I did. I do know know why he picked me to do all the flirting with when there were more single women in church than me. I guess I look like he could pull it off with me. Thank you all for your advice, it really helped me come to my decision.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 Hey take it as a compliment ! maybe he flirted with you more than with the other women because he finds you more attractive ! and also perhaps he felt encouraged because ,at least at the beginning,his attentions were well received. Don't be upset,these things happen and you are not losing much, I think- the guy does sound a bit of an airhead. I don't think that Christians should never be allowed to flirt... but surely they should not take church functions as the optimal venue where to pick up ladies.
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reader, forever58 +, writes (9 February 2011):
forever58 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your advice an i do agree with you .he is a big flirt an i think a christain man should not flirt with a woman if he is not will to get into a relationship . i thought he was really intersted in me but the more i keep thinking about it i realize he was just stringing me along with all his flirting . he is a very confident man an knows what he is doing . he is to good at the fleiting to not know what he is doing .so i have decided to avoid him an maybe he will get the picture an leave me alone .but what bugs me is they are more single women in the church than me so why pick on me ? again thank you for your advice
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reader, forever58 +, writes (8 February 2011):
forever58 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice. Yes, I do think he is just a big flirt and a big tease. We have known each other for a year now and we have flirted with each other. At first I though that maybe he was inestrest in me, but the more he does this and it not going anywhere, I have come to think all he is is a big tease and a flirt. And yes, I think he is this way with all the women he comes in contact with. So now I am tired of all the flirting he does, so I am going to start to avoid him. You would think that a Christan man would not play these games.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): To be honest if he is confident enough to flirt - he is well able to suggest going out or taking it a bit further. I would take it that he is just a big flirt and nothing more.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (8 February 2011):
If he were a teenager , or even a guy in his 20s, I'd say he is shy and I'd tell you to encourage him openly, or take the initiative yourself. But assuming he is a guy your age, yes, I am afraid he is just a big tease, or -not even that, probably there is no plan and no malice, this is just the way he is, the way he is used to relate with women. A little compliment, a little hug, a little wink won't hurt, in his mind, makes the woman feel good, and makes HIM feel good about himself, really popular and a ladies man. Innocuous ...but annoying too if you have your heart set in getting something more out of him.
From what you say, no, he does not sound like he wants a relationship, he is just playing and flirting for the sake of it. Play along if you like- or ignore him totally if this bothers you , but if you are looking for a relationship, he does not sound like a viable candidate.
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