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writes:when i was with my boyfriend i was having cybersex online with another man, is it cheating?
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reader, femcuck  +, writes (25 June 2008):
 It isnt cheating if your partner approves of it.
but you will find that the male on the other end is rarely satisfied with just cyber and will want real time.
they will ask for her mobile no
ask her out
so it doesnt take long for them to start competing with you for your relationship
lets face it they have nothing to lose.
sooner or later she will spark up a friendship with a good looking well hung guy and if hes local watch out!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (31 May 2008):
 It is like a sexual fantasy except you deal with real people whom you may never meet in real life.
Even if you meet in real life, you know it is all virtual
and only a game and nothing to do with the real life issues
unless both of you want to continue into real life.
If you have a sexual fantasy in your head,
it is considered as cheating too ,if you are the religious type.
Do not lust in your mind for another .That is a sin too.
If you are not the religious type, WTF !
Can you not just enjoy a good sexual fantasy without being judged wrong?
If your husband or b/f says it is not wrong, then it is OK.
If he believed it is wrong, then you should not do it for his sake.
I believed it depends on where your partner stands on this issue and not necessary cheating as so many see it.
Some find that this activity as positive because they are satisfied and may increased their libidos.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): yes
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (30 May 2008):
 It's "cheating" if you don't tell him about it and/or he wouldn't approve.
Cheating, in a sexual/relationship context, is quite simply doing something sexual without the knowledge and consent of your partner - so what constitutes "cheating" in one relationship isn't the same as in another.
For example, in an open marriage or a polyamorous relationship, having sex with someone other than your main partner most definitely isn't cheating. Similarly, swingers aren't cheating when they have sex with others. In both cases it's with the full knowledge and consent of the partner, and it's not cheating. Taking the other extreme, someone who views pornography and masturbates in secret without their partner's knowledge may well be "cheating" - particularly if their sexual activity with the partner diminishes as a result.
So, simply, would it have annoyed and hurt him if you had told him? If so, it's cheating.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (30 May 2008):
Yes that is cheating. Cheating isnt just physically having sex with someone else other then your partner. It can include-
-kissing
-touching
-dirty dancing
-talking dirty
-sexual intercorse and oral sex
-talking to another person other then your partner about what you want to do with them sexually
-emotional cheating- where one partner finds someone else to have the emotional side of a realtionship with
So im pretty sure what you did falls into a number of those categories.
But whether or not it is classed as cheating, the fact remains that it would upset your bf if he knew and thats NOT OK. So rather then worry about if its classed as cheating, worry about how to deal with the fact that your bf would most likely feel hurt and disrespected.
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reader, jezman +, writes (30 May 2008):
 So why were you having cybersex in the first place? Ask yourself why you had cybersex whilst you were in a relationship.Its not technicaly cheating i dont think but its following the same princible :/I guess the real situation here is are you prepared to tell your boyfriend about it? If not then it may be classed as a form of cheating. Its a matter of opinion in the end :PJez x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): In my opinion, yup its cheating.
Its almost worse than having a casual got carried away one night stand because there is emotions and thought going into it. Im guessing you did it more than once?
I dont want to judge, and Im not, but you asked for opinions, and thats mine!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 I guess you should ask yourself if he was having cybersex with another girl, how would you feel? I'm not sure it's actually cheating in the physical sense, but it doesn't seem like a good way to keep a solid relationship with your boyfriend.
Take care.
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reader, StudentOfLife +, writes (30 May 2008):
 Depends of the person. I too don't consider that cheating but I wouldn't do it to my mate.
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reader, Mia Rio +, writes (30 May 2008):
its a form of cheating, your looking for someone else to fufill something sexual that you a) don't want your bf to b)he cant.
rules reversed how would you feel?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): I dont think it is very nice, but i cannot class it as cheating in my book but hey, maybe i am the odd one. I wouldnt do it to my fella.
take care
xx
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