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writes:Hello,I'm a 15-year-old girl and my big brother and his wife asked me to be the godmother of their future child,few months ago.The little boy will born in September (probably 20th according to the doctor).The baby will be their first child.I never had a nephew before...I'm afraid to be a bad godmother.I know that this is an important role in the baby's life.I want to be sure I'll do the best for him.I love to buy him clothes and toys and touch my sister-in-law's belly to feel the baby's moves.I have a godmother like most of children.She was there when I was a baby and a little girl.But since I was 11 or 12,we don't see each other and she doesn't call me.I don't want to be this kind of godmother.I want this child to be happy and to make him laugh like I do with my friends.I've got a little brother of 3 (by my father and my stepmother),my parents are divorced,and I don't see my father because my stepmother hates me.She doesn't talk of me to my little brother...maybe that's why he forgets me sometimes.I don't like her and she doesn't like me,but I miss my little brother! I don't want to be like that with my nephew.I don't know teenagers who have a nephew,so I can't exchange my thoughts.Is there a guide or some advices I can get on the web? I know there is parenthood for dummies,why not a book of "godfatherhood"?Is there anyone here,who is a godmother and with whom I could talk?Thank you :)
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reader, °Ale°  +, writes (20 July 2008):
 Awwww... cuteness!
Perhaps you're taking this a bit too seriously? I think it was a sweet gesture of your brother to have asked but I don't think they're expecting much of you in that department and especially you being young. Maybe somewhere down the road you can start learning and taking on more responsibility as you get older. But as for right now I wouldn't bother too much. I do think you're doing a great job by being so sweet and thoughtful of the baby's needs.
And sorry to hear about your relationship with your step mother, that particular situation can be very hard. I can see why you're so attentive and cae so much about the relationships in your family.
Good luck with everything and enjoy your new little nephew :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2008): What a coincidence,we're both going to be aunts and godmothers in September 20s.I think you should just relax and try to be a positive influence in his life.This is my first nephew and I'm trying to prepare also.You're not going to have him all the time,so don't worry about trying to fulfill his every need.But be there for him,hang out
with him,play with him,call him,have little days together.
Not all the time,but like once a week or every two weeks.I
hope I helped and that there will be a sucessful birth of your nephew!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2008): I was a teenage godfather to my nephew.
Part of being a god parent is to set a good example. Children will do what you do, not do as you say. If you want to better influence your godchild to do well in life, the best way is to lead by example.
What qualities do YOU look for in a role model? Start with that. For example, given your family history, how would you have wished others would have influenced you? Those are the behaviors you can start with.
Be a positive influence, and spend time with your godchild as you would have wanted your parents and godparents to spend time with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2008): I was a teenage godfather to my nephew.
Part of being a god parent is to set a good example. Children will do what you do, not do as you say. If you want to better influence your godchild to do well in life, the best way is to lead by example.
What qualities do YOU look for in a role model? Start with that. For example, given your family history, how would you have wished others would have influenced you? Those are the behaviors you can start with.
Be a positive influence, and spend time with your godchild as you would have wanted your parents and godparents to spend time with you.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (19 July 2008):
 The big responsibility of a godmother is that they will take care of the children if in any case the parents are gone. If your brother and his wife put this honor on you, it means they trust you enough that you will love and care for their children as how they will and that you will be a reminder of their existance in any case they die. Also, this puts you in a financial responsibility that if the kids aren't able to afford their studies and their parents are gone, you'll be most likely responsible for them. The custody of the children will pass on you in case of the parent's death.
Now, I'm not a godmother, but since I was 12 I became an aunt. Although I felt I was very young to be an aunt, this did not make me love my nieces any less. Whenever my sister would come visit us, I was in charge of taking care of the babies and I loved it. I would play with them and try to take care of their every need (except diapers!) and I would try to do everything to make my nieces to feel loved. Now, if in any case my sister and her husband die, I would fight to the death for my nieces custudy because I'm well aware that there are other people who will not love them as how I will.
Don't be afraid on being a good aunt/godmother because you will likely will be one. YOu already said that you love your nephew so much and that you just want to be there for him always. You already said that you don't want to commit the same neglect that your godmother and father did with you, so you'll always have that in mind for your nephews.
Good luck and love that nephew to bits!
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