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writes:if theres a 6 year differance in between you and someone else would it be ok if you date them? this is just a random thought im not actually saying i wana date a 10year old, im just saying is a 6 year age differance too mutch? i have a friend and shes 10 and it was just a random thought i had for a second. im curious if that did hapen would it be socially acceptable? and also would it be more acceptable if we were 20 and 26 or 36 and 42? again just a randome thought id never date her were only friends wele only be friends. i cant stress that enough Reply to this Question
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 Yes that is the main point but that is for all the legal reasons. I'm not saying you can't love someone who is that much younger than you when you are still a teen but the law will have a problem with it. In the end your heart chooses who it will love even if it seems so bizzare to others. There is never an "I can't" with love. It can always be done.
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reader, Duckiies +, writes (18 August 2010):
 yeah it basically what we talkin about.. but at age 13 is still a minor it be illegal to date her. So i dont know what you wanna do.. I say you should move on
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reader, benc57 +, writes (17 August 2010):
benc57 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso bacically what most of you are saying is in a relationship aslong as the number doesnt end in teen like 13 through 19 its only about love?
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reader, Duckiies +, writes (17 August 2010):
When love come along, Age is just a number.
No one can judge you. Stand up for yourself and decide whats best. We only live once
best of luck
duckiie
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 Age doesnt really matter once you get into your 20's, and 25 year old going out with a 31 year old is nothing really. I have dated guys who have been 9 years older than me and the age difference was never a problem!
But when you or the girl involved is still in her teens it is a little problematic, always the legal side of things comes into play, plus you have a question of maturity. Imagine an 18 year old going out with a 12 year old, it is just completely wrong in so many ways! At 18 you are pretty much an adult, whereas a 12 year old is still a child!
The problem with teenage age difference relationships is that most teenagers are ruled by hormones rather than by common sense, and hormones will mislead you rather than realising you are being taken advantage of. Often boys aged 15+ are very horny little hormonal things and if there is a girl (regardless of age) that he likes in any way then sex will take over when in reality is is entirely innapropriate to be having sex. Teenage and young girls are very impressionable and too ready to try and please everyone, so if a guy shows a bit of interest the chances are she can be pursuaded into doing something she doesnt really want to do, just for the sake of pleasing him.
So that is why us old folk always disagree with age differences and teenage sexual relationships, even to the point where if an 18 year old girl was dating a 24 year old man this still seems wrong! This is because at 18 the girl is still a teenager, she still doesnt really know enough about the world or herself to make a sensible decision. Whereas a 24 year old man is a full adult, probably working, with his own house etc. But the girl will still be in school, living with parents etc.
I think age differences only really become acceptable when the youngest party is in their early 20's (20-23), any younger and it is still dodgy territory.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): There's a general 'rule' I've heard about this: you take your age, divide it by 2 and add 7 and that gives the approximate minimum age of the girls you should reasonably date. So at 16, 16/2 = 8, add 7 gives 15. Though that's not actually legal in most places and I think just shows that at your age, any age gap means big differences in maturity and life experience. If you use the 'rule' when you're 26, you can reasonably be dating 20 year old women. Personally I broke this rule when I was 22 by dating a 41 year old and that worked really well, so I say who needs rules!
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reader, The Realist +, writes (17 August 2010):
As you get older the age difference matters less and less. Right now 6 years up or down is a big deal because the people would be in two separate worlds. Its not impossible though and I know quite a few people with successful relationships being many years apart, one was eighteen and her bf was 28. Now they are very happily married. Age difference can always work but it does take special people to understand the different worlds experienced as you go from 10 to 25.
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reader, valeriemarie +, writes (17 August 2010):
I would say between a 16 year old and a ten year old...Yes! that would be way not okay. When I was 16 I started dating a 21 year old and we were together for four years until I was 20 and he was 25, I don't think that was even okay because I was still such a little girl, in these past years since then I've learned soo much and I am so different and more smart now than I was back then, I've have so many more life experiences now. And I'm still really young!! anyways my point is..I think anything after 21 is okay to date a person 5 years older, younger than that is probably just a waste of time not to mention illegal
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reader, LisaSE +, writes (17 August 2010):
 I need to be honest; when I saw your question I burst into laughter! I'm sooooo sorry.
Here's why: my parents have been married for 24 years now. My mom is currently 50 and my father is 63! That's 13 years, for the record! And their worst arguement? WHO'S DECIDING what's for supper... not what actually IS for supper! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
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