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writes:I am in a long distance relationship. I live in Wales while my boyfriend lives in London (he is at university).I don't think our relationship has a future. We are on a break because he cheated on me and lied to me and abused me verbally, and on top of this he smothers me. I was deeply in love with him when we were first together - from about 4 or 5 months into our 9 month relationship, my feelings began to change. He's done a lot of hurtful things and though I know he's sorry, the damage is done. I think all of this has caused me to fall out of love with him. The problem is, during the summer he moved to live in Wales near me. He has nobody else here, no friends, no job, nothing. He lives alone and sees me pretty much daily. I would feel horrific to break up with him in this situation.So really, I have a couple of questions. Should I break up with him, and should I wait to do so?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): No,you shouldn't wait.Just because he lives alone and has no friends is no reason to feel sorry for him and stay with him.Break up with him NOW!I mean,he could go to a bar
or a club to make some friends for all we care.Hope I and
everybody else helped!xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): Yes you should break up with him, and no you should not wait. You said he is abussive, there is no excusse for thaat. What is he going to tell your family, "Oh, gee, sorry I killed your daughter, but she made me so mad." Even if it is verbal, and not physical, it all hurts the same. Physical just leaves visable scars. You owe it to yourself to find someone who loves you, and respects you enough not to cheat or abuse. I pray that you will make the decesion that is right for you. God Bless Sister
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 I would be the first person to tell you that you should be by his side if I though that you a least owed him that much.
You don't owe him a thing.
He cheated, he lied, he verbally abused you and it was his decision to relocate next to you after treating you this badly. By taking him under your wing and seeing him everyday, you are telling him that "It's Okay to treat Men This Way!!!". I would dump him before the sun rises tomorrow and tell him to take a hike for me while you are at it!!! He's a jerk and you KNOW you deserve better.
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reader, saltwater +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Only you can know if you want to break up with him...but if you do, don't be concerned about how he lives alone...he cheated and lied to you rememeber!!...so don't feel guilty about leaving him!!
Can you continue to trust him when he is away at Uni? That's what you need to ask yourself.
If you feel that you can't, well the solution is obvious...
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