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*meliab
writes:I met a guy on a quiet night out who I instantly clicked with, we spoke for hours about everything and he seemed really genuine, we took a walk after closing time (I wasnt drunk neither was he) and it was really nice, we sat on a park bench for ages and time just sort of got away. I asked if he wanted to come back to mine and I told him that nothing was going to happen. For a while this way true, nothing happened we just spoke and asked each other questions, got to know each other, but we did eventually sleep together the next morning (after having a talk about how we didnt just want to be one night stands to each other) during he told me how much he liked me and wanted to see me soon. He even mentioned the work 'girlfriend' in regards to what he wanted me to possibly be.I really liked this guy and he was actually the one who said he didnt want to just be a one night stand and I agreed, he txt me when he was home and told me he had a lovely time and wanted to see me again really soon.This was 3 days ago, maybe im being hasty but I havent heard anything from him and im thinking that maybe he did just want exactly what he got and I fell for it. Not sure what to do and I feel so used and angry at myself. Should I try to forget and move on or have I just not given him enough time?
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reader, ameliab +, writes (17 October 2012):
ameliab is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe never really got back to me, kept txting me asking if we could meet up (always when he was drunk and out with his friends) and I didnt really want that...I could see exactly what he was asking/wanting, so I would respond asking if we could do it a different day, maybe meet up for lunch...after two or three of these exact scenarios happened he just stopped trying...I think that he was just looking for one thing. Thanks for your comments everyone.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (1 November 2011):
 When he texted you, did you text him back?
If you did text him back I'd give it a couple more days and if he doesn't get ahold of you, chalk it up as a ooops.
If you didn't text him back, I would text him, with a quick hello, how are you. See what happens. If not reply with in let's say 24 hours.. I'd chalk it up as an ooops.
So take it as a lesson. No sex on the first night.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 November 2011):
 could go either way... if you haven't heard from him in another week, chalk it up to live and learn...
he did text you when he got home so maybe he's just busy right now.
sadly, many folks will say what the other person needs/wants to hear in order to get sex....
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2011): Bit of a mistake to sleep with him - no matter how much you feel you have connected with someone, 24hrs is not long enough you know if that connection is real. However, he did text you later. Three days is not long. And if you were taking things slowly then that would be fine. You may well hear. Maybe one text from you lightly saying 'hi, how are things with you?'is ok. Beyond that - leave it. Agony, I know. If you don't hear after a week I'd put it down to experience.
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