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anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and i always have foreplay without having sex because i told him i was a virgin so he sticking to his promise not to have sex with me. But when ever we are done, he always complain bitterly of having "blue - balls" to the extent that he can't even stand upright until for some hours. I always become very disturbed when ever i see my boyfriend in this state because i'm afraid something will happen to my man. So i sometimes make up my mind of having sex with him at other times i ignore those feelings and say to my self i have to keep my virginity. I'm i been fair to him? Will it affect him in any way? Should i stop having foreplay with him? What should i do because i love him very much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): The condition is real and seems to affect some men more than others. When its extreme it can be very painful. It wont cause any lasting harm but if its really uncomfortable for him, maybe you should stop having foreplay or he should ask for hand relief or do it himself.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (16 December 2010):
 He can solve his blue balls with masturbation. Simple as that.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (16 December 2010):
 Oh nothing's going to actually HAPPEN to him. Don't buy that line.
Still, it would be very frustrating to say the least. You may want to think about giving him a helping hand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): Blue balls is real but it only happens if he is having all that erection time without ejacuation.
As long as he either has an orgasm/ejac somehow before 2-3 hours go by (handjob, oral, vaginal, anything) or at least doesn't stay hard that whole time, then he will be okay and without pain.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 December 2010):
Don't take any notice of his line. C. Grant said it all. It's just a line. Nothing at all will happen to him.
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (15 December 2010):
 He's feeding you a line. It's not hurting anything other than his mood.
It's not clear from your post how far your "foreplay" is going. If you're getting him worked up but he's not ejaculating, well, that's not the greatest. It doesn't do any physical harm, but it is frustrating. If to you "no sex" means you won't bring him off with your hand, then yes, you guys probably should stop doing stuff. If you are bringing him off and he's still complaining then that's just his attempt to pressure you to move your limits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): If he is so afflicted, he could masturbate himself, or you could masturbate him as well.
The hand works just as well as the mouth or the vagina at relieving these symptoms.
Maybe he shouldn't complain so much.
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