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writes:It's a long story, but I met someone about a year ago through a social group for people with anxiety issues. Due to some commonalities in our lives and situations we bonded and got very close very quickly. She has had bad luck with men. She's in her forties but has never had sex with a guy. Initially said she just wanted to be friends but we shared a kiss one night and after that she said she would like me to be her first. We made arrangements to get together one weekend but two days before she had a change of heart and called it off. I could certainly understand that, but she said she needed some time away from me and we never saw each other again.That was about eight months ago and I've never forgotten her. But lately I've been worried about her. The website we met on was a social group website where people organise groups and activities. The anxiety group was one. She was also in some hiking and outdoor ones, and she organised a music lovers group. The website lets you see what activities are happening and who is attending them for the groups and I noticed she has not participated in any of them, including the one she organises for months. Due to some of the things she told me about her past, and particularly a guy she met and was dumped by before she met me I'm pretty worried about her.It's possible she just doesn't have anything to do with the site anymore and it's as simple as that. I sent her an email through the site asking if she was ok but she didn't reply. But I suppose it's possible she didn't get it. I don't have her personal contact details anymore but I know where she works. And according to her jobs website she's still there.So what I was thinking is I could just phone up and ask for her, and if the receptionist says "Sure I'll just get her" I would know she's ok and would just hang up. Should I do that? But what if she says something like "Can I ask who this is and what it's about?" What would I say? I suppose I could email her work but the thing is I don't know if she would want to hear from me, or how she would feel about me contacting her work.So what do you think I should do?Thanks, I appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2013): Hi!
Why don't you just call her?
Tell her your worried about her.
Take a risk, your dying to talk to her.
No Guts, No Glory.
Just tell her how she's doing?
Your worried about her and you thought of calling her.
Just as simple as that.
It might open doors for a new beginning.
You never know, what if she's been waiting for you, all this time?
What a waste, right?
So just pick up the phone and call her now.
Good Luck!
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