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writes:I'm confused , please help me out.I have been married for 8 years, but I moved out to my parents place within a year an half with my son due to history of domestic violence.I have not been in touch with my husband but we stay married still, he doesn't want to get back to us. We are not divorced.My company offered me transfer to another country, and I moved over without informing my husband. My son stays with my parents, so that he gets to meet his father in regular intervals.On moving to the new country , I met an old colleague of mine after a gap of 6 years to came down to meet me.. he was engaged to someone else , during this trip of his we kissed each other and thought that we could take the relation to another level, but we felt guilty and we did not proceed. He went back to his city . We continued to remain in touch with each other.He eventually got married, but his wife hasn't joined him yet due to visa related issues. We started speaking to each other daily on social media tools and our conversation took turn towards underlying sexual tones and we haven't been able to resist each other and been masturbating in front of each other via social sites.We were thinking of meeting each other, but we backed off knowing that we would be cheating our respective spouses and its not correct on grounds of morality.We have decided not to talk / meet each other , so as to avoid any issues, but we continue to remain friendsBut, I'm unable to forget my friend, and I'm indecisive of what to do.Please help me.
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reader, emontez12 +, writes (6 March 2016):
well you definetly need to finalize a divorce for sure!!!! I think you need to focus on making sure that's importatnt to you. because if you don't then its going to be a chapter in your life that never finished and it will interfere with anything you try to build in the future. find someone else cuz clearly your frend has a couple of things to figure out also. put your focus to other things that could beneifit your well being not put it at jepordy. build your self in a way your son and family can be proud of and look up to. for get about anyone or anything that makes you feel indecisive and unsure of yourself. not knowing what do you or how you want go about something should be a thing of the past for you.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (6 March 2016):
 Yar well jacking of for each other IS cheating. Sugarcoat it in any flavour you wish but thats what it is... Your friend is in capable of being all that a husband is supposed to be and its all a bit too late for either of you to be whipping out a sudden sense of morality. Whatever the reason his wife can not yet join him does not make him fair game. You know what to do, it's just that you don't want to.
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