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*lowergirl888
writes:I recently go back with my ex to give our relationship one last try . We were together 10 years and 8 months ago I walked out and met someone else. I decided to give it another go with my ex as I felt like If i didnt give it one last try then I would always regret that I didnt. Now the problems that were orginally there are stil there which were my ex never gave me affection and loving and attention. He knows this is why I left and I had to fight to get him to give it a last try as he also met another woman who he fell inlove with. Its been about a month and half since being back and Its very hard and I can not get the other guy out of my head who I had the 8 month relationship with . I stil love him and only reason I left is I felt I had to give it 1 last try with my ex. Is it possible to be inlove with 2 people? Im very confused? I didnt think id come back to my ex and feel like this but the love is still very strong for the other guy who I left. He has been very hurt by all of this and we are still friends and I cant seem to let go of him. I dont know what to do because its not healthy. please can someone advise me. I feel torn all the time. But the guy who I left for my ex of ten yrs has said that he does'nt think he could do a relationship now as hes been so hurt and i would have to prove alot. it really hurts
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (1 January 2013):
BimBim hit the nail on the head. You need to leave the guy you're with, and thank him for helping you finally realize that he's not the right guy for you so you can move on with your life.
Be single until you stop being lonely, THEN, you're ready to be in a relationship again. Jumping from guy to guy is just not good for you and the guy whose heart you broke will still be there if it was meant to be.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (1 January 2013):
 I am not surprised the man you claim to love is now telling you a relationship is not possible, I can certainly see his point of view, what if you got back with him and decided again your ex needed another chance.
Your ex, who is now your current, had 10 years to get it right, what made you think that relationship was salvagable?
Find somewhere else to live and get out of where you are. Spend some time OUT of a relationship and use that time to self reflect and determine some goals for your future and how to attain them.
Don't cut ties with the man you claim to love, maybe if he sees you trying to rebuild your life and working on how you deal with relationships he might, just might, decide to give you another chance.
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