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writes:Hey im 16 and very confused.I've been dating this guy (age 15) for nearly two weeks and i really love him and i know he loves me as that is all he has said in his texts to me. The only problem is im just too shy. whenever i touch him or hug him i tremble because im shy and i havent kissed him yet because im afraid of putting him i really want to though and i know he wants to as he has made alot of advance's and ive dodged them very gently.He has started to notice how shy i am because he's started to back off and slow things down i dont want that to happen i was really happy with things the way they were and i hate the fact that were becomeing a little distant how can i stop myslef being so shy and put the spark back where it was. I dont want to lose him because i love him so much. any help would be greatly appriciated. thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2006): You talk like there is something wrong with being shy!
If your boyfriend loves you, you being shy will not ruin things, nor will it "loose" the spark you have. Be yourself, take things *slowly* and that is how you will become more comfortable with doing things with him.
Also you said he loves you because he says it in his texts all the time. Something for you to remember: Anyone can say "I love you". It's ACTIONS that show if someone loves you, not words. If your boyfriend reacts badly AT ALL to you being shy then I would question his motives for being with you.
Maybe you don't know this but guys your age will do pretty much any thing to get some physical action. I'm not saying this is true of your boyfriend, but if you are shy, you reject one of his advances and he has a problem with that, be very careful! Don't let anyone make you think there is any thing wrong with you, because there isn't.
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