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writes:ive been on here before asked a question about a girl. "this is my life is there something wrong with me?" i unfortunately got stupid tried to drown my sorrows in a nice tall bottle of jack and top it off wit some hard tequila. i drunk texted her. i told her how i felt. now im wishing that i never fell into this situation. the next morning when i turned on my phone i got flooded with texts from her. full of questions like how many other girls did you send this too? is it true? and many others. i immediatly hated myself. i just texted back with complete honesty. i figured that i stepped into a big pile of shit and i might as well dance around in it. i told her it was all true and that i never once lied to her and that i wasnt gonna start there. later that night after my phone calmed down i got a text asking me to go to her house that night. i was astonished and frightened beyond all belief. i went over and her lil girl was down asleep. we spent the night drinkin and just talkin. then we began watching a movie and she seemed to make herself open to me on countless occasions. i couldnt bring myself to do anything. i thought that it would be extremely wrong of me. i just couldnt. she fell asleep in my arms as we drifted to sleep on the couch. the next morning we both where awaken by her lil girl. her name is lilly. we both sobered up real quick. jen, lilly, and i all went and had breakfast together. during breakfast she started asking me questions for the first time since the previous day via text. she said exactly "we cant just ignore it and hope itll go away." to wich i responded "ive said all i can say. i was honest and i stand by wat i said. ive fallen in love with you." that is where we left it. i never asked her one question or asked how she felt. later as she was getting ready for work i was taking care of lilly getting her ready for the babysitter. jen and i where talkin just bullshitting. she told me that she was dating a guy and has been for the last two weeks. i felt like ive been hit in the gut. ive never felt this hurt. we left it at that. when it came time to leave lilly started a fit and didnt want me to go. she begged and pleaded to jen. once she calmed down lilly asked me for a kiss and a hug. jen then told me how she never gets along with men and that i was the first male lilly has ever grown so attached too. yet again i felt a sharp pain in my stomach. i know the guy she was dating personally i work with him. the funny thing is before i knew they where dating, jen asked me about a rumor that her boyfriend knew all about, and she told me i want to hear wat happened from you not him. he is not a nice guy. hes the kind of guy that will say one thing to your face then talk shit about you behind your back. this guy will use and abuse her. im stuck in the back watching as this guy uses and abuses the woman i love. i dont want her to ever get hurt and yet i wont say anything. i cant just tell her that he is no good for her. i dont know wat he is like when he is in a relationship. he could be the better man. he could be the perfect guy to take care of her and make her happy. i just know wat he is like as a man. not too many people are fond of him. im completely lost and feeling a way ive havnt felt since my ex girlfriend died. please help me. what should i do. its not my decision to say wat she wants. i know that even through this situation we will continue to be friends and i love lilly i could never abandon her like her dead beat dad. what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): hey its me the question guy. all names are fake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): It sounds to me that you are in the friend zone which is a bad place to be if you are in love with someone. She likes the attention she gets from you, and you being there for her to talk to and such. While she is sexually attracted to this other guy. Because that night you went over to her house it sounds as if she was just fishing you for information about this other guy. You can't force her to leave this other guy or love you it doesn't work that way sorry. Did she ever say she loved you? She seemed more concerned with if you had told anbody else. All I can say is just keep trying it might work out, but once you are in the friend zone it is hard as hell to get out. Also I agree with satindesire never Give Out Anbodys Real Name Especially when a Child is involved. Good Luck.
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