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writes:Well, me and my ex were together for 3 years and we live together. We broke up a few months ago due to trust issues on both sides, but continued to live together. Almost straight after we broke up, she admitted that she had started seeing someone else. That ended as apparently the new guy was moving things too fast. About a month later we were making moves to get back together, but it never happened. I understand its not a usual situation with us still living together and sharing a bed (nothing else), but i dont know what to do about it. I really like living with her as we are both good friends too, but i cant help being jealous and angry when her phone rings or she goes out on her own, cause i am paranoid she is seeing someone else. I know i have no right to feel this way as we are both single, but i cant help it.When we get on, we are really good friends, but otherwise i jealous and its really starting to mess my head up.9 times out of 10 i feel over her and happy, but the other time means i can barely cope. Am i being too needy ? How do i stop this from happening? I would talk to her but im afraid of what i might say or how it will come out. How do i know if she want to get back together with me? Or is she still seeing someone else? Very confused!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): I have to agree. Living with someone that you've just had a lengthy relationship with seems like a recipe for failure. It will NOT be easy, but you need to move out. I know it sounds very attractive to have her as a close friend, but the fact is, being her close friend means you may witness her fall in love with someone else. Unless you want to subject yourself to that kind of pain, move out and move out now. Your 'more than friends' relationship with her is dead, and moving out will help you move on in your life. Don't you want that?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 January 2010):
You have got to move out and move on, or you'll be stuck on her. She might be seeing someone else. She might not. The fact is though, she has not said she wants to get back together. You need to stop living in the past and move on. Not easy, I know. But the first step is to move out.
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