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writes:hello, i have been chatting on line with this really great guy for about a month now. its like we think the same and get along great. i have chatted with him on the phone a few times. well he drove over 5000 miles to meet me. he has family , not to far away from where i live. we spent a day togather and i feel he wanted to move in with me. i suggested he go and see his family and see what they had to offer for him in the way of employment and his future. he said he did not want to do things on his own anymore.well i didnt know what to say. should i have let him move in withn me in my house? when i have only known him for 1 day. the day was great. now he wont return my call. i only called once because im not desperate. i have a caring heart and i didnt want to have let him down. did i do the right thing? Reply to this Question
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reader, Kodgypie  +, writes (6 January 2008):
in my opinion you did the right thing, because you can be too trusting and then get used.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): If I just met someone for a day, I wouldn't let them move in. He should have got a hotel and stayed for the week. If you really want to pursue something with him, I'd see how things go for a longer time, and then take it from there. Call him again and leave a message explaining how you feel, and see how he reacts.
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 You definitely did the right thing. You can't let someone move in with you after one day like that, it's madness. If I were you, I might be a little suspicious of his motives. If he now refuses to return your calls, don't you think maybe he was looking for a free house rather than a relationship? Not everyone is as good as we want them to be.
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reader, Landie  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 A month is a short time. You shoult talk to him first make sure that he can get a job where you live. And that moving to where you live won't upset his life and job.
If he can get a job you could give it a try. You son't really have anything to loose.
But be careful people are not always what they seem to be on the internet.
Good luck
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reader, AJ jess ^..^ +, writes (6 January 2008):
 I think that you did the right thing after all you only knew him for 1 day give him another call and have a chat with him thats always best x
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