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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm in love with a guy. I've had many crushes before but I've never felt as much in love as I'm with this guy.I have never had sex because I want to stay virgin until marriage. Before I didn't quite think about sex and I felt I will never like it as I used to feel quite insecure about myself. Now, things started to change. Even the idea of having sex with this guys seems quite pleasing as I really love him. It doesn't mean I'm going to do it before getting married. It's just a thought.This guy is so serious with me now. However, I started to worry now again if I will ever enjoy sex. My mind keep telling me I will never enjoy it and that is making me sick to no end. I'm so depressed right now.Will thinking that way affect my relationship with him, I mean does thinking that I'm not going to enjoy sex makes it impossible for me to enjoy it in the future.The question might seem silly I know but it worries me to no end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): If you keep thinking that you won't enjoy sex you won't. But if you let the love you feel overcome this then you will enjoy it. Believe me. I was a virgin until late on in my twenties. I didn't think I would enjoy sex and it didn't matter much to me. Now that I'm with a man I love very much and we enjoy a loving sexual relationship. When we are together we are close and share a real intimate bond and that makes it all the more enjoyable for us both. Please don't be depressed. You are worrying about something which probably won't even happen when you are with the man you love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): If you're so worried try masturbation. Maybe once you start feeling those feelings of pleasure you'll start liking the idea of the real deal even more. Thats how it was for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): Yes, convincing yourself you won't enjoy sex is a great way to ensure that you won't enjoy it!
Think positively -- you've never done it, so you won't know how you'll feel about it until you have.
You have a wonderful guy who cares deeply about you, you care deeply about him, and you are in love. Even if sex isn't the most wonderful thing the first few times, it's very meaningful between the two of you.
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