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writes: I have been secretly seeing someone that is 10 years older than me. We have been together for almost 9 months now. He has been married and has a child. He told me that I was his only one. He said that him and his wife were divorced and I should feel comfortable since they are no longer together. I have recently found out that I am pregnant with his child. Recently I saw him in a town nearby with another women in his truck who might be his "ex-wife". Should I break it off with him and raise my baby by myself, or should I set this American Soldier straight?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2006): You need to make sure if this is innocent or not, you said he had a child from his last marriage, was it a discussion about the child's care. Don't expect him to turn his back on everything that his ex does with the offspring, you'd expect the same respect with your child. Confront him and ask, talk together to sort things out before you make any decisions. Then if he is up to bad deeds you need to think about yourself and the baby above him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2006): Check me out...........U must first and foremost tell this man about his child that you are carrying. Then you must get to the bottom of where the two of you stand. If he does not want to be with you, you must continue on with your life as you were. A baby is a big responsibility and it is hard to raise them on your own but you there is hope in doing it all alone. Make sure if he is a jerk about it to take all you can from his check to secure the future of your child. Peace and Blessings.
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (29 January 2006):
Tell this guy about your pregnancy but I would confront him first with the 'toehr woman'. It might be innocent.
If it isn't, screw him for every penny you can get and don't get pregnant again. Simple!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 January 2006):
 Well it looks like you just bought the farm kiddo. Tell the jerk about the baby and maybe you might be able to get some child support out of his sorry ass. And remember in the future that anytime you have to sneak around secretly seeing someone they are probably married.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (29 January 2006):
 Hi, I agree with fairy angel, you have a duty to find out what he is up to and your relationship shoul not be a secret if he is seperated.
He has to be told about your baby if he does not already know and if he is still with his wife or has another woman on the go then ditch him, life as a single mum is not bad and at least you are not being taken for a ride, sort him out, confront him and be strong.
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (29 January 2006):
 First things first...
Make sure of your assumptions...
Is the woman you saw him with really his ex-wife?
Do your homework girl, he might still be married and is lying to you?
And another point of concern, is ...
Why have you been " secretly seeing him", if he has nothing to hide?
Could be he is playing you for a fool, so do some digging,
you owe it to yourself and your unborn baby.
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