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writes:I am a 33 years old woman - successful career with 2 beautiful kids. my problem is that i don;t think i love my husband or he loves me. My husband loves to spend time with my kids but not with me, i know he is not having an affair and whenever i share that concern to him he always says that he loves me but i never feel any emotions, care or love from his end.He sometimes talk rudely with me, I have shared my concerns regarding our relationship with him but he always change the topic or reply in a single word "Ya, Yes, I know" and that's it. He is never open for any communication and don't understand and feel the pain that i go through. I cant leave him as i have 2 small kids but at the same time i am not happy in my relationship. He has tons of time for kids but no time or patience or love for me. Does he really love me and i cant sense it or is it no love.... Extremely confused. Any help will be much appreciated!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 July 2012):
 when was the last time you and your hubby had alone time to reconnect as a couple?
if it's been a long time maybe time away just the two of you is in order.
IF he won't talk to you about it, perhaps some brief couple's counseling to see if the marriage is viable is in order.
Have you told him you are so unhappy you are considering ending the marriage? That might be what he needs to hear to make the effort needed....
BTW you CAN leave him even with two small kids...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2012): Thanks a lot Karlos - We actually dont have any family in Canada and my baby sitter will not keep the kids on the weekends. I have asked my husband to leave the kids with friends and go out for dinner but i is not interested in it as he thinks he cannot enjoy dinner when the kids are with somebody else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2012): Could it be that the kids just take up too much time and attention and when it comes to having time with you alone he's too exhausted and drained to engage in a deep conversation about your relationship? Maybe suggest to him that once a week (Weekend if possible) that you arrange for a family member or a close friend of the family to mind the kids, and you two spend some quality time together, maybe go to a restaurant then to the cinema, or book a weekend in a hotel somewhere away from your typical daily environment. Maybe all he needs is a bit of free time with you alone to give you his full attention rather than giving it all to the kids.
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