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writes:So I just met this guy about a month ago through a couple of my good girl-friends. He is really nice and is so sweet to me, which some guys aren't because Im kinda overweight. I really like him and I don't know how to show that I do without being annoying or really obvious. I just want it to come to him naturally, not me being really obvious. The thing is, if me and him ever do get into a relationship, (which i really hope we do :D,) right after I turn sixteen, he is going to turn twenty. So I need some advice on that too, if thats too big of an age gap or what. Pleaseeee help me out and answer! and I'll let you know it goes! Thanks a bunch!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUPDATE:
So everything is going really great as it is! He picked me and my friend up from school the other day and we hung out, and then when our friend had to leave he took her home and then me and him rode around for a couple hours just talking and such, and he was just telling me the SWEETEST things, and he actually held my hand at one point, so I was really excited! Haha, I just want to thank the three ladies who gave me advice in the first place and I just wanted to let you know that your advice payed off, it really did. I really don't know where this makes everything go, and Im NOT jumping to conclusions. But im really happy (;
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionharlemxmelina, Angzw, & Jendorset: Thank you SO much for your advice! I am sure it will help me out alot! What I really love is that the other night, while taking me home, he told me that I was really mature for my age and stuff like that, which had me going, but I just have to remember to take it slowly and to just enjoy the friendship that we have! Thanks alot you guys!
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (12 December 2009):
I would not worry about the age gap it is not that bad. You said he is nice to you but some people are generally nice to everyone.Just be friends and get to know each other and see what happens. If he tells you he likes you then go for it.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (12 December 2009):
Since you are not yet 16, take a while to get to know him; he can go to jail if anything happens between you when you are under 16. Just continue to be yourself, relaxed, friendly and not desperate. Because of the age gap, I would definitely not make the first move.. Just be friendly enough to give him some room. However, this might only be a crush and maybe he sees you as nothing more than a little girl, which you are. So it might make him less friendly if you come onto him. Also, I know its pointless telling this to someone your age, but think about the future. You are in highschool and he might be going off to college or working. In those places he will meet girls his own age and be away from you for long periods. Think about if you would be happy not knowing where he is.
Not all people have a problem with you being overweight. If you are just yourself, friendly and open there is someone who will see through the outside. But you have to tell yourself that you are worth it. If you walk around looking down trying not to be noticed then your wish will come true; you won't be noticed! Make sure you do your hair and take care of your skin and have some pride in yourself and somebody will notice you; hopefully someone your own age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): in my opinon that isnt too big of an age gap at all. im one of those strong believers in where there is maturity there is no age only love and trust. and if you start being sexual once you are legal it is even less of a problem not that there truly was one. my advice to anyone who gives you grief is ignore them. some comments may hurt but at the end of the day there is probably something wrong with thier own lives to take liberties on happy people.
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