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writes:I am married to a narcissistic verbal abuser and bully. My husband ostracized me from his children and their mother from a previous relationship. It's like I'm his dirty little secret not his wife. He is always giving me the silent treatment. We have grandchildren that live with us. He goes to visit his adult children and their mother but invites our daughter and grandkids to go but not me. I feel this is wrong. He will only go places with us if his other grands can go. Meanwhile my grandchildren ask him to go places with them and he refuses. I am thinking toxic although they are very young. This is how it begins with low-self esteem, etc. and hope my young grandchildren are not affected by this. They are 4, 6 and 7. I haven't done a great job explaining this. It is too long. Anyone else have a similar experience? Reply to this Question
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reader, 02DuszJ  +, writes (28 November 2015):
 I think you're lucky to be able to see him for what he is- and the potential dangers he poses you your young grandchildren- rather than being a broken shell of a woman, unable to say no to him, so take hold of that power and your desire to protect them, and leave him- tell your daughter about it, she must already be aware of his personality. Tell her about your fears- she probably hasn't considered the potential dangers..If she doesn't like it at first, maybe you had arguments, she'll come round eventually, if she's got a level head. If there's been incidents where your grandkids have been very upset, she needs to reconsider her priorities, and actually try to prevent the ostracism and do something about it... I think try not to get into any major arguments, and just put your point across evenly cos she might limit/ cut down your contact with them.Try and spend more time with your grandchildren- and use the time to show them how to treat others, always include them and hopefully your wisdom will rub off in them... Have games where everyone has an important role in the game.. Good luck
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 November 2015):
 As I see it... the ONLY question you face is: How long will you put up with this mistreatment?
The answer to that question will give you the date when you should move out and tell this creep to take a hike...
Good luck.....
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