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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi there, I'm new to this but feel very alone. I need advice and help. I'm married but been having an affair. I want out but I'm also hurting. My husband only sees me one day in a week. It's been like this for 10 years. I love him but I'm so lonely. The guy I'm having affair with wants me to leave my husband for him and part of me wants to but I don't love him like my husband. The other guy keeps secrets, gambles everything I don't do but it's more for the company, it's not all about sex as the guy has erectile disfunction. I know he is using me and I guess I am too but I can't seem to end it. He ends it with me, says he can't wait for me then I miss him and he misses me. He gives me attention and I know that's why I'm stuck in this but I'm just not strong plus I'm so lonely.
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reader, Sarrah  +, writes (20 March 2008):
Talk to your husband and tell him why you are feeling so lonely and ask yourself the question what both of you can do about it. Take the chance to work on your marriage.About the affair: what do you like about this relationship? Can you find that in your marriage if you and your husband work on it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): I can understand you situation. Why dont you have a good long chat with your husband and see if you can get your marriage back on track. Why is it like this? Why do you not see each other so much? If he works away then can he not get a job near to you, or you work near to him. What has happened to make things like this? Sometimes we let things slip straight into a rut and its a slippery slope to get out of. But if we dig our heels in then it works and we can surmount it. Take each day as it comes. I would get out of the affair right now. It isnt doing you any favours. He is just giving you the much needed attention but nothing else. Be strong. Walk away from the affair and try and take up a new hobby, meet friends or go out of your way to make new friends.
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reader, Emmy-Lou +, writes (20 March 2008):
 Firstly, well done for admiting that your not happy. Thats always a good step. Now maybe you can start to understand that even if you do try and find comfort in a strangers arms, it will never be the same as your husbands.I can understand that your finding it difficult to not be able to spend time with your husband, but thats not an excuse for an affair.My opinion is that you should finish it with your other man and cut all ties, delete his numbers and just ignore him, that way you won't get caught up again.Use your free time for some hobbies or start socialising with your friends more, they will always give you the comfort you need.And in regards to the 1 day a week visit from your husband, use this day to rekindle your passion, spend as much time as you can in the comfort of each others arms, try new techniques in the bedroom, add a bit more sauce to your love life. And trust me it will leave you begging for his next home visit.Hope this helps and good luck.
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