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*aina
writes:Im 18 this year and Im in love with my teacher. It's not just a crush as you may say, Im crying when I ask this question. What should I do? Im in a bad mood everyday and I dont feel like eating anymore. I know that it's very stupid but you see, I cant help it. I was afraid that I would lose him so, I knew that I would make a fool out of myself but I sent him an email, tried to tell him how I feel. I think he'll just take it like a joke, or laugh at me or underestimate me, a student who try to flirt her teacher. Im afraid that when I graduate (may be more than 2 years) at that time he probably has a gf or a wife already. I feel like a loser, he laugh at me and I just sit here and watch him walks away. When I think about him it hurts so bad. This is the first time I love someone like this. Im disappointed at myself and lost my confidence. What should I do? I cant go on living like this.
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reader, Raina +, writes (5 December 2010):
Raina is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much, I'll trust you but there is one more thing, actually he only taught me in 3 days, I often go to see him when I have a break, looking at him from a long distance. I dont want him to notice me but sometimes I feel that he looks at me, too. So I cant do that anymore? I cant see him like that anymore? OMG, Im sorry, I knew I have to do that, seem like the only thing I could do is to forget him. It's over. Thank you guys very much, I hope I could find someone like him again in my life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): Look, i love my teacher too, and it ripped me to pieces when i found he had a girlfriend. I wanted to tell him how i felt and i cried over him all the time. But i know this will hurt you but wait until after you graduate to tell him, it can be striaght after but not while ur still in school, it may hurt but trust me its best for him not to know!
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reader, evaagaga  +, writes (2 December 2010):
 i dont think it is a crush thats what people say about me too.
i love my teacher and feel a lot like yo at the moment unfortunatley i dont what you can do as i havent figured it out for myself
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reader, Raina +, writes (2 December 2010):
Raina is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCan I tell him that I love him? If he love me too then I'll tell him to wait so that after I graduated I could be with him. If I dont tell him it'll end here and the only thing I can do is to forget him. You know he's very important to me so I dont want things to end like this. I know that I cant lose this guy. I can follow your guides and forget him, and my life will comeback to normal, as gloomy as always. I dont want that. Now I meet someone who can make me feel like Im living for the first time of my life and then I'll just let him go? Then can I meet someone like that again?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 December 2010):
 Its quite normal to develop feelings for a teacher but you need to understand that even if he did like you, he cant do anything about it as he would ruin his career and never be able to teach again. So first off you need to tell yourself that nothing will ever happen between the both of you, and you just need to accept this however hard it will be.
Am sure he is not laughing at you, he is a teacher and a mature adult therefore he is meant to be there for his students, he may however ignore this email as he might think it is a joke and doesnt want to respond, he may not no what to say to it.
The only thing you can do here is to keep yourself busy, do hobbies that you enjoy find your interests and persue them. Maybe join a few new classes or groups and get to no new people. Go out with your friends and generally just keep yourself motivated and busy. Once you have accepted that nothing can ever happen between you, then you need to move on, look at guys your own age and see if you can find any common interests with them this will help you get over your teacher. Goodluck.
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