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anonymous
writes:I'm so confused,I completely, utterly and madly love my best friend. I've known him for 8 years but we've only been living in the same town for two months of those 8 years, he has also had girlfriends for that time.We have often been intimate, yes...wrongly behind his girlfriends' back. It has come to the point where we have to avoid seeing each other in person because we don't want that sort of thing to happen again.I'm beginning to get to the point where I'm feeling very depressed about the whole situation, somedays I feel like killing myself. I know the only way is to cut any contact with him but I don't think I can physically do it. I've tried but he always pursuades me otherwise.He's been on the brink of leaving his girlfriend for me a few times but never makes that jump for one reason or another. I've come to terms with the fact that we'll never be together, but I also know that I can't carry on like this. I havn't been interested in a sinlge other guy since I met him.How do I move on?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 January 2008):
Hi Anonymous,
Thanks for your updates. It is good to hear that you have moved on and has become stronger.
As to your believe that God does not exist,you are entitled to think that way.Someday , somewhere and somehow you will see the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks laura,we are already very distant, he has also often travelled when the situation gets bad.I am also moving and not staying in the same place, I've been dating and had boyfriends but no one interests me or is able to communicate with me like the man in question.I also am very busy, I have 3 jobs and an active social life. I don't sit at home all day every day.And the problem with your last solution?...well I don't believe god exists.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (10 January 2008):
One way is to physically remove yourself from your place and go to another place and start a new life .In time , you will feel distant from him and will move on.
If you stay in the same place, it will constantly remind you of him.
Another way is to keep yourself busy and you don't have the time to think about this problem.
The last way is the spiritual way. Confess and asked forgiveness from God and then move on.
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