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*ealsimon
writes:I am involved with a very sexy girl she's 22 says she loves me calls me her boyfriend and wants me live with her.We get on really well txt non stop and have graet sex so what is the problem?.....We I have beem hurt in the past by people cheating on me.I have found this girl lying to me a few times now over silly things but makes me have this insecure feelings.I called her mobile the other day for a chat, she said she was at home cooking tea for her brothers, I asked what she was cooking them and without hessitating she told me Pies, chips and peas. I didnt give it a second thought, We chatted for about 30mins, she said her phone had low battery and if it died she would call me back, anyway we ended the call before that happened. I called her back about 10mins later as I forgot to ask where we was meeting and her phone went stright 2 voice mail, I thought oh flat batterey so I called her home phone, her Dad answered and said she been out all afternoon though she was with u. When I got hold of her about an hour later, I said where have you been she said no where am at home my phone was dead I then asked if her Brothers like there tea, she said yep, she then said she was wating for her Dad to get home, at this point I said funny he was there when I called 15mins agi, thought you was out with me!!!! She tried every excuse 2 talk her way out of it before she finally said she had gone out as needed to sort her head out. I screamed at her down the phone saying why could you just not say im out having a walk? She did not know why she lied.Should I trust her???
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reader, realsimon +, writes (4 December 2008):
realsimon is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi thanks for your help everyone.
Yea there is a 14 year age gap, she says age is just a number as we have so much in common, same taste in music, films. She seems mature for her age at some things like she loves going 4 walks, says she hates clubs as full of creepy people trying to pull you, she tells me her ideal night would is a home cooked meal or pub meal, Movie or bowling.
We have been seeing each other since March this year. We txt each other 20+ times a day and see each other 5 out of the 7 days. She tends to be the push one like if I dont txt her within an hour, I get a txt saying why have you not replied hope ur ok etc.
I have learnt she makes little stories up, one of my mates said I should not trust her after that lie she told me about, so he sent her a txt trying to get her to meet him, she replied quite a bit asking who are you & asking for a photo. He txt once when I was with her & she showed me, said she been getting 100's but deleted sum as they were too dirty, funny enough she only had the ones on there my mate showed me he sent her. I asked her if she had replied she said no!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): if she can lie over silly little things she can lie over anything,anyway i believe she may be a little young for you and it will show in a few months time,get out now before it gets harder and starts to hurt,i have been where you are and i am still hurting after 2yrs
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (3 December 2008):
 You might have to ask yourself if you are coming on too strong and being overly demanding.
She might feel pressured by you to make up stories. If she is as pretty as you say, its possible you want her more than she wants you.
There are reasons why people lie. Sometimes its because its too personal and no one's business or they feel pressure by the other.
This isn't about trusting her, its about asking yourself if you are coming on too strong or making her feel as if she has a need to keep personal information from you.
If she lives at home, how is it you will live with her? How long have you known her that she calls you her boyfriend? Some young girls think a guy is her boyfriend after one week! They just like the sound of it.
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