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writes:I broke up with my bf C and now dating him...lets call him King. We both met on an online free publishing site. Anyways, I was on another chat site, a chat with strangers (i was bored), and I keep getting men and women on there wanting to bed me, they would also bully me everytime I refuse to talk "dirty" back and/or do cyber-sex with them. How do I tell my current bf (he is 20, I am 16) that I am getting more and more scared of him, and all I think is he is going to turn into one of them?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 July 2012):
 I'm happy to hear you have met him in real life, and that your family knows him as well. However, this doesn't mean you must continue to date him. Just tell him that this isn't working for you and say goodbye. I would focus on your personal safety from now on and definitely stay out of those chatrooms that seem to produce people who scare you. Loads of sleaze balls and freaks hang out in those, looking for girls to groom.
Just because a guy is older doesn't make him boyfriend material. If your boyfriend is starting to scare you, listen to the intuition that tells you something is wrong.
You need to be stronger and more sure of yourself if you want to date older guys. I'd stick to guys you know in person for the time being. Good luck!
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reader, ArtemisLykiaosNightshade +, writes (20 July 2012):
ArtemisLykiaosNightshade is verified as being by the original poster of the question My parents do know about King, and they are alright with him as they are alright with my liking for older men, my mom had the same thing when she was in her younger years as well. I have met him in person but that was only for a short time as he had to go back home. It is this other chatroom I am worried about in which I won't be returning there, and I will just stick to hanging/talking to my own friends instead of random strangers whom I don't know.
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reader, ArtemisLykiaosNightshade +, writes (20 July 2012):
ArtemisLykiaosNightshade is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I have met my current boyfriend in person, face to face but only for a few short weeks as he had to go back home to try and go to college and my parents do know hi, they are alright with him even though he is older, they understand my liking for older man. The chatroom where random strangers I talk to to pass the boredom. I do not go on their anymore, I now stick to talking to my own friends.
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reader, NoSCreen  +, writes (20 July 2012):
You are very young, delete whatever accounts you speak to him on and hopefully you didn't give him any of your personal information. Tell your parents as the other posters suggested and please try not to go to chatrooms that are clearly not for you or your age group. Be safe there are weirdos out there that take advantage of young girls. Break all contact with this man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2012): Hi,
I agree with all the previous posts. This is not safe, get out of this virtual relationship as soon as possible - today, someone who gets angry because you don't want to do something is to avoid at all costs. Did you give him any personal information? I hope you didn't because people online can be worse (obsessive, clingy etc.) than they let on.
I'd suggest that once you stopped all communication with this guy who is too old for you, go out, join a club or get involved with community projects/charitable organisations in order to interact with real people and make new friends. Also if you're bored you should try and find a hobby (non-computer based). Good luck.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (20 July 2012):
 I agree with the other aunts...they have given really good advice. It is likely King IS one of those online perverts you've seen on the other sites. There are a lot of people online who do this type of thing. That is why many of the aunts and uncles on here try to steer people against forming "serious" relationships with anyone online. The thing about online relationships is that you have no way of knowing if the other person is lying to you. That is the biggest danger.
My advice for you is to do what the other aunts have said. Immediately stop your communication with this online boyfriend, do not text, email, or call. And don't accept any of these things from him. I hope that you have never given him your home address. Make sure that someone else in your life knows about this guy in case he would try to cause problems for you. And in the future, keepin your boyfriends in the real world.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 July 2012):
I think it's time to turn off the computer, put down the smartphone, stay out of chat rooms and focus on real life and real people in your life.
Tell King that you've decided you don't want to date anyone for the time being and that you are signing off for now. Then tell him you've told your parents about him. Then go tell your parents about him. ASAP. Like, today.
If you are scared of an online boyfriend, there's a major problem. Time to cut contact with him and step away from the chat rooms for now. You need a dose of real people, and some perspective on this, okay?
What you are doing is not safe and you will wind up in trouble. Tell your parents, please.
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