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*aylynn
writes:I've been talking to this guy for about a month, and I really like him. He has said he likes me too. But on Thanksgiving, he got back together with his ex to see if he was the reason for the problem in the relationship. This really crushed me. He says I'm "first on his list if anything happens." I don't know what to do-should I tell him how I feel? Should I only talk to him when he talks to me? I sent him an email asking if we weren't talking b/c of he got back together with his girlfriend...was this a bad move?
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (11 December 2008):
 WHAT AN INSULT.. I would never have a girl friend who says i am first on her 'LIST' ..
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reader, babyminow +, writes (11 December 2008):
 whoa girl you are like the backup girrl. no dont wait for him, he is using you so he wont have to go single if they break up. trust me i know
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): That's totally absurd! Who Does he think he is??? As everyone else has said, you don't need to sit around and wait for someone who has you on a list of potential Partners! Tell him He's 99th on your list and you will get back to him in 20-30 years, and then...forget his phone number, address, email and any other means of contact! Go out and find yourself a guy who tells you that You Are Number ONE and always will be! Don't wait around for this jerk to break your heart!
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reader, kaylynn +, writes (11 December 2008):
kaylynn is verified as being by the original poster of the question Totally...and if you think that was self centered, before he asked if we could be friends with bebefits...arg!
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (11 December 2008):
 You are "first on the list if anything happens'? How insulting? Is he insane or just simply lacks manners? Does he think that you feel flattered that he considers you his nr. 1 backup should the relationship with his gf fail? How rude!!! Tell him to shove it. You need a guy that will make you his nr. 1 period!his one and only princess, not his nr.1 backup! Tell this seld centered loser to forget about you and go find himself another back up.
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reader, kaylynn +, writes (11 December 2008):
kaylynn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwow...thanks! that really hrlped me. That thought crossed my mind, but I never really let it go anywhere. Thanks again...you guys are awesome.
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reader, kamcc23 +, writes (11 December 2008):
Never make someone a priority when to them you are just an option. If he didn't like you enough to be with you before, and then decided to get back with his ex, who is obviously an ex for a reason, then he isn't worth your time. You don't want to be second best. Let him waste time in a relationship that isn't going to work anyway, in the meanwhile you go on with your life and be great, you deserve better than that.
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