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writes: My girlfriend and I have been going strong for 9 months now. It's long distance since I'm at school, so we are on the phone late at night a lot. On several occasions during these late at night conversations, she'll be talking for a while and I'm definitely listening, but a few times I have dozed off for a minute or two and missed some important things. I have no defense for this, but I honestly am listening to what she is saying and don't want to do this. (Its not narcolepsy). When we talk, I tend to get comfortable in bed and listen a lot, but then I get sleepy, its late after all. She ends up getting furious with me, which I don't blame her for, and she won't accept apologies or explanations and I can't promise because I don't know how to stop this. It doesn't occur to me that I'm tired because I'm really listening, but I just slip away. Does anyone know how I can prevent this, and it would be helpful if anyone had an idea as to how I can get through to her right now, because it just happened tonight and I'm desperate to stop it from happening again. Thank you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2006): I used to have a long distance relationship when I was a teenager and I remember nodding off a couple of times. She thought it was quite funny though (I do fall asleep really easy) Maybe you could make sure you are always standing up when you talk to her?
Or perhaps have some strong form of stimulant?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2006): The simplest solution is to not get comfortable in bed for the call. Sit up somewhere in a room with lights on. You're one of these well-adjusted people who are trained to be able to fall asleep when they get into bed. Don't train yourself out of it.
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reader, Seth +, writes (1 May 2006):
i'm a female too but i'm sorry to say that she,your girlfriend, seems to be a girl without reason. if you've already tried to explan to her but she don't seems to understand please don't waiste your time, i meant, pretend your don't care she'll come back to same, no more silly act
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2006): You sound a lot like my boyfriend, he does that too sometimes but has never comfronted me about it. Point being, you should just tell her you feel so comfortable talking with her it does that to you. She wont be upset if she just knows your there for her when she needs you.
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (29 April 2006):
 the best thing is either to to talk earlier or take anap before hand
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reader, robinlovescena +, writes (28 April 2006):
 Well sleep during the day, so that you are really for those long conversations. Explain that it is late at night, you have school, and maybe- just maybe that the stuff that she may be saying has no interest to you whatsoever.good luckRobinaka advice gurl
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (28 April 2006):
 I have had long distance relaionships and done exactly the same as you, i have plain out fallen asleep on the phone. I think the only thing I can really suggest is that you avoid going to bed totally when you are on the phone with her and/or make sure that when its getting late and you are getting tierd say goodnight.
It didnt use to cause a problem with me but if it is with you its something you need to tackle. If you are snuggleing up in bed and its late and you are relaxed then its only natural you will start to nod. Hope that helps.
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reader, orkney girl +, writes (28 April 2006):
You need to explain to your girlfriend that you are tired and because it's late and you're comfy that on occasions you will nod off to the sound of her sweet voice...if she cant accept that she will need to phone you earlier! Try asking her to keep the conversations shorter so she doesn't drone on and on about her problems, you seem to be listening but is she? If you're the one thats getting your ear bent night after late night and she wont accept that your tired because you're studying hard there does seem to be a communication problem. send her a letter telling her how you feel about her and how you feel about the nodding off, explaining why you nod off etc. perhaps seeing it in black and white will encourage her to think of YOU not just herself. What does she do with her time and how come she isn't tired late at night? stop blaming yourself for being tired we ALL get tired it happens when you work or play hard it's natural I once had a bloke fall asleep on top of me after a 19 hour shift! Try not getting into bed untill you've finished you 'phone call, pro plus or missing a nights conversation so you can catch up on your much needed sleep?!! All the best XX
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (28 April 2006):
 Well iam not surprised you do not have a very good telephone manner. Basically when you are on the phone to somebody. If you feel to tired to listen or talkl to some one. politely let them know that you are tired or you are getting tired and tell them you will call back another day when you feeel a bit more awake and fresh in your mind. If you do what you are doing at the moment it seen as rude and impolite and you can offedn adn upset other people. So remebr your telephone number and put your self in the other persons shoes.
hope that helps
BYEEEE:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2006): Its easy talk during more awake hours and have conversations which engage you both. Your missis must be speaking for some time for you to nod off. Join in a little with the conversation and you never know. I personaly know how anoying it is to talk to some body who is falling to sleep during as my wife does it to me all the time. Very anoying but hey i choose to talk at silly times i get silly results. Tell your bird to call during the day and save the late nighters for the weekend when they can be spiced up a bit.
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