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What does the term "gay" actually mean ?

Q.   What is the actual meaning of gay. Is it fancying men (if your a man) and vice versa for women, or is it something else?...

A.   30 June 2006:  my boyfriend and i have this discussion all of the time. Gay means that one of a sex has attraction for the same sex. Some people think that gay is only meant for guys and girls are lesbian. well gay is an adjective. it describes something. in this ... (read in full...)

I may be pregnant, can someone help me?

Q.   me n my boyfriend had unprotected sex, n he came in me, what are the chances im pregnant?...

A.   7 May 2006: The chances of getting pregnant are very likely. go get checked good luck Robin aka advice gurl... (read in full...)

He throws a tantrum when he doesn't get sex... !

Q.   My boyfriend throws a temper tantrum (no exaggeration) when he does not get sex. What shuld I do?...

A.   7 May 2006: If he gets mad when he doesnt get sex, did it ever come to you that the only reason he is in the relationship with you is only for the sex??? good luck Robin aka advice gurl... (read in full...)

Married for six years to a man who can't control his anger!

Q.   I've been married for 6 years to a man who cant control his anger and often times takes it out on me. I dont know what to do. Im so tired of his little temper tantrums, slamming things around, and trying to make me feel guilty for everything! He is ...

A.   7 May 2006: Try to talk to him about it. Does he ever hurt you physically hurt you? if he does, i wouldnt be with you. I amalso religious, and i beleive in the lines--- to love and to cherish--- and if he is not going to love and cherish him, you should not ... (read in full...)

I'm sweet 16 and think I may be a lesbian lady! (ps. should I get a pierced eyebrow)

Q.   ok hi everone my problem is im 16 i think i might be gay or atleast bi, oh yeah im a girl by the way, i have had strong feelings towards one of my mates for 5 years since i was 11, i snogged her when i was 12 but it was a one-off but ever since i ...

A.   7 May 2006: Ok, not to alarm you, but evryone goes through the i-think-im-gay phaise. Ive went through it, and it last it about a month. You may be bi or gay, but first you need to come out and say it. You body is bi or gay, but your mind still thinks that you ... (read in full...)

How do I get to know this guy on my sports team better?

Q.   There's this guy I like at school, but i've never really talk to him. We play on the same sports team at school and he's in a couple of my classes. How do I get to know him and how do I let him know that I like him?...

A.   7 May 2006: Start by talking to him. ask him for his number, and gradually get to know him. good luck Robin aka advice gurl... (read in full...)

He keeps touching my panty... Will this lose me my virginity?

Q.   Hi Dear, I never had sex with my boyfriend, but sometimes he's touching my panty with his hands or fingers, but he never enter it. So with touching panty, will my virginilty get finished? I know, it's stupid question, but still i'm asking. ...

A.   7 May 2006: Hun, you cannot loose you virginity from that reason. To loose your virginity, a male must enter his penis insid eof your vagina. If him doing that to you makes you feel uncomfortable, tell him good luck Robin aka advice gurl... (read in full...)

Going out for 7 months now we're engaged but haven't had sex for 3 months! I just don't feel like it...

Q.   I have been going out with my fiance for 7months now, we used to have sex alot but we have not had it for about 3 months, he is always asking for it but I dont want to, I dont know why because I do fancy him and love him, he is getting upset about ...

A.   7 May 2006: Tell him that you dont understand why you dont what to have sex with him, and that the reason why you dont want to is not him. Try your best to get your self horny or something chick, you guys arent even marries yet, and you dont want to have ... (read in full...)

Is it best to ask him out face to face or by text?

Q.   hi i am 15. is it best to ask a boy out face to face or text? would it make a boy feel shy and awkward if i asked him face to face or would it make him like me more? plz answer this, i really want to ask face to face cos will it boost my confiden...

A.   7 May 2006: I think that if you ask him face to face, then that shows that you really do like him, and that you care about what his response would be. I dont think that he would feel awkward, just alittle shocked, becuase these days, everyone is afraid to ask ... (read in full...)

How do you treat your gf after finding her infidelity?

Q.   She cheated on me three months ago, because she tought I ignored her for a while and she went panic-she regrets it a lot and this almost wracked her, she could not sleep and eat well. For all the love she gave and proved to me, I forgave me and ...

A.   7 May 2006: You have to keep on trusting her. Without that, she WILL think that. Talk to her about it, and explain your reasoning. good luck Robin aka advice gurl... (read in full...)

Why hasn't he called?

Q.   why hasn't he called?? we're meant to be going out for the first time tonite and he hasn't phoned or came online yet! does he not like me anymore? (im 18 he's early 20s)...

A.   7 May 2006: There are several explanations for this. He might of fell asleep or something. Try calling him. You will truely find out why he hasnt called you. Dont go to any sudden conclusions too soon good luck Robin aka advice gurl... (read in full...)

Is it worth it?

Q.   are relationships worth the hassle or is it way more fun staying single?...

A.   7 May 2006: Relationships are always fun. You just have to pick the ones to choose from. Staying single is also fun. You can do as you please, but is your are trying to hook up with someone,they might say no because you two are not going out or something. You ... (read in full...)

In love with my ex but I cant be with her..now there is this other girl...what do i do??

Q.   I work with this girl and she is so cute and she is an awesome friend and we dicussed to take it farther to just go out casual dates. I also work with her friend so i asked him what he though about it and if he liked her because i couldnt do that to ...

A.   28 April 2006: Just do what you want. Dont be afraid to tell me!!! ... (read in full...)

What can I say to get my gf to cuddle me??

Q.   My girlfriend is to hyper and she never seems to like to cuddle. What can i say to make her just a lil more clingy to me?...

A.   28 April 2006: Tell her you love her. Look into her eyes-not too close. kiss her neck. If she starts to get hyper, hold her hands, and bring her in close to you. good luck Robin aka advice gurl... (read in full...)

What can I do about a... smell?

Q.   My vagina always smells fishy. What can I do to stop the smell? I'm too embarrassed to do stuff with boys because of this! Help!...

A.   28 April 2006: I actually have the same problem. It is called bacterial vaginitis. Go to your doctor about this. They will you pills, and about 10 days later, it will stop. good luck Robin Advice gurl... (read in full...)

How do you know a boy likes you?

Q.   how do you know a boy likes you?...

A.   28 April 2006: calling you all of the time, sticking up for you, flirting with you.......etc good luck Robin aka advice gurl... (read in full...)

Is there anything wrong with his weird bump??

Q.   My boyfriend has a werid bump on his thing. Is that werid? He says its been there since he can remember. We were both each others first so it can be that problem. It is only noticable when its happy. What is wrong?...

A.   28 April 2006: Maybe he should go to the doctor and maybe even get tested for an STD. hey, it could happen. good luck Robin aka advice gurl... (read in full...)

Everything was great until a week ago, now I am lucky if he picks up my calls!!

Q.   My boyfriend is 8 years older than me and we just started a long distance relationship about 5 months ago. We visit each other every month taking turns and everything has been great. When we are apart he would call up to 4 times or more a day and ...

A.   28 April 2006: He might be starting to have a life- outside of you and the phone. Wait untill he calls again and ask him what the problem is. good luck Robin aka advice gurl... (read in full...)

I'm falling asleep on the phone and she thinks that I don't listen!

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been going strong for 9 months now. It's long distance since I'm at school, so we are on the phone late at night a lot. On several occasions during these late at night conversations, she'll be talking for a while and I'm ...

A.   28 April 2006: Well sleep during the day, so that you are really for those long conversations. Explain that it is late at night, you have school, and maybe- just maybe that the stuff that she may be saying has no interest to you whatsoever. good luck Robin ak... (read in full...)

Can you give me advice on meeting a guy who finds me more than a good lay??

Q.   Lately, I've had time to think about my love life or lack thereof. I'm 18 and I can't find a relationship when it seems like everybody has a surplus of them. I date all the time, but I can't seem to be anything but a sex object. All the guys I meet ...

A.   28 April 2006: Well, im not saying that you do this, but during the day. try to cover most of your body. Make conversations with guys, instead of sexy flirting. Let the guys that you like or are dating that you do not want to have sex, just a good relationship, ... (read in full...)

I am scared he will ask me out again!!

Q.   I need help on something. Theres a lad I like and I know he likes me as well he's always flirting with me also sticking up for me as well I am just scared he will ask me out again cause when a lad asks me out I always say no cause I think the lads...

A.   28 April 2006: I think that if you like him, go for it. Why would he be joking around he you know that he ;likes you? he would not want to hurt you,. Therefore, would not joke around with something like that. good luck Robin aka advice gurl... (read in full...)

Half-way through sex I go soft, what can the problem be??

Q.   I have sex with my girlfriend we start doing it then half way through it i get soft what can be the problem?...

A.   28 April 2006: Maybe you should stop for a few minutes and do your buisness. winkie winkie. then get back to it good luck Robin aka advice gurl... (read in full...)

I have strong feelings for another women and its scaring me!!

Q.   Im a 19 year old female and have never had strong feelings for anyone particularly. But since before chiristmas i have been having strong feelings for a girl-this is not like me at all and its scaring me. Once more its scaring me because i think sh...

A.   28 April 2006: The absolute worse thing that she could say would be no. Talk to her about it and see if she feels that same way. If she doesnt feel that same way about you, then just be like, well since i told you my feelings, i dont want anything to happen ... (read in full...)

My mom told my dad that I'm not a virgin!

Q.   My mom just told my dad that I'm not a virgin anymore. How can I talk to my dad about this? He's going to be fuming and I'm already angry at my mom for doing this without consulting me because if anything I should have been the one who told him ...

A.   28 April 2006: I would just talk to your dad about it. Yes, he will be angry about the fact that you have had sex, but i think that he would be even angrier if you didnt explain yourself. good luck Robin aka advice gurl... (read in full...)

How do I choose, my boyfriend or my friend?

Q.   I went out with this guy for about three months and he cheated on me, couple months later I went out with my best friend. We dated for about a month until my ex came back to the picture. I've been with him for 5 months. My best friend has talked ...

A.   28 April 2006: I think that if you do not love your boyfriend, be with the person that you do love--- your friend. It's what you and your heart wants, so follow your heart. good luck Robin aka advice gurl... (read in full...)

Do I lose the weight to make myself feel better, is it all in my mind?

Q.   I feel like I'm being pressured into losing weight. I've always had a thing about my weight, from being bullied about my weight throughout my childhood, but truth be told, I'm not fat, and I'm not thin, but yet I feel like I have to lose weight or ...

A.   28 April 2006: I think that you should love the way you look either way. A lot of the people that i hang out with arent skinny. not fat, not not skinny. I am skinny, and one of the very few of my friends that are. I dont look at my friends like they are weirdos. I ... (read in full...)

I'm 12 and pregnant! HELP!

Q.   I am only 12 and i am pregnant.Me and my boyfreind wo is 13 nearly 14 used protection but it split.Only me and him no but i need to no what to do.PLEASE HELP!(i have gone a few weeks)...

A.   2 April 2006: ok, i just got done having the class, sex ed, and i am really disopointed at what i am hearing. how could you even think of having sex. well tell ur mom. i know it is hard, but you have to do it. take a test. make sure that it is for sure. make sure ... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin and he thinks that makes me "frigid" because I'm a bit nervous about getting close...

Q.   Hiya, Well there's this boy who I really like and last night we got a bit close, closer than we have got before. I'm having a party next week and he's invited but he doesn't know whether he is coming or not. I think he wants to move things a step c...

A.   2 April 2006: Hey chick!! well i know what you mean by ur afraid of getting to close- ecspecially if ur a virgin. ive been supposively "going out" with this guy for about a year, and we are kinda like friends with benefits. well i have so many fantasies with this ... (read in full...)

He wants me to give him oral often. So how do I do it well?

Q.   This one's a pretty blunt simple question: I'm in a new relationship with a guy who is OBSESSED with oral sex, but I'm kinda new to this and haven't ever really given anyone head before! - please please PLEASE, as many tips as you can think of for ...

A.   2 April 2006: Ok, first, please do us all a favor and ask him if he has any STDs. Second, if you really want to do this, just relax, and he shouldnt judge you for how good or bad you are at it. Relax and just let it be. Practice on pop- sicle sticks if you have ... (read in full...)

I didn't bleed my first time!

Q.   Does it always bleed? Hello, im 14 years old and i recently had sex with my bf on our 1 year anniversiry. ive never had sex before and i heard that when you have sex for the first time a women bleeds from her "downtown area" Anyway ive ne...

A.   15 March 2006: no, there is nothing wrong with you. if you have put a tampon in, you have been stretched out.its like a rubber bands. some people bleed. some dont. i guess ur just one of the lucky ones.... (read in full...)

He says he likes me, but he also likes every other girl too!

Q.   I like this one boy a lot, and he claims he likes me, but then he tells other girls that he likes them too. I know that things will never work out, but I can't stop thinking about him. I don't want to like him AT ALL, and I seriously can't control ...

A.   15 March 2006: Ask your friends what kind of reputation he has. If hes a lady's man, and is going all over the place with chicks, i wouldnt get involved with that. He probably just wants one little thing.Just think about all of the things that guy has ever done, ... (read in full...)

The pain of my past relationships makes me push even nice guys away!

Q.   I've dated a lot but I haven't seemed to be able to get passed the hurt I still feel inside- I feel that I gave all of myself to my ex-husband- my heart, soul, love-I'm afraid to let people in- I've even dated really nice guys but I always seem to ...

A.   21 November 2005: maybe you should try taking one of those really nice guys to the next level. you could find yourself falling in love all over again. good luck ~Robin~ aka advice gurl... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't follow through with his promises!

Q.   I am in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend for 2 months tells me he'll do things and he doesn't do them. Is he trying to tell me he doesn't want to be in this relationship any longer?...

A.   21 November 2005: i personally think that long distance relationships never last. especially if youre in school.If you cant trust him, do you really think that you should be dating him? I also think that you should try talking to him about the promise situation. Ask ... (read in full...)

Should I risk going out with the guy with the reputation?

Q.   Im a 17 year old girl who hasn't really had a boyfriend before and there's this guy at my school who has a reputation for having been out with a LOT of girls. I'm definately attracted to him but many girls are. I get the impression that he wants to...

A.   10 November 2005: You should never trust a guy over your friends. Go with what your friends tell you. they want the best for you. A guy could just want you for the sex. He may have been with so many girls that he couls have some sort of sexual disease. If he wants ... (read in full...)

I'm concerned because he sees his work friend more often than he sees me...

Q.   My Boy friend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We fight just like any other couple. A few weeks ago, he told me he found someone that he works with, attractive. Guys are visual so I had no problem with that. A few days ago, though, ...

A.   10 November 2005: well, i would learn to trust him. guys say alot, but when do we ever listen, huh? Anyways, i would talk to him about him, and try to understand where he is coming from, while he tries to understand where you are coming from. Sit him down when you ... (read in full...)

I had sex with a guy I don't even love. Then his girlfriend blackmailed me to my boyfriend...

Q.   I dont know what to do. Me and my boyfriend were only dating for about 3 months but we were so in love. It was like love at first sight when we first met. Then he told me he wouldn't be able to come here anymore until winter was over (he lives in ...

A.   10 November 2005: Ok, first what were you thinking??? just kidding. you are stressing out, and you do not need someone up your butt about it. Well anyways i think that what you did was wrong, and him not taking you back is the consequence of having sex with a guy ... (read in full...)

If I put on any more weight, my fiance is going to leave me and our son!

Q.   My fiance and I have a boy together. We were OK, but just recently I have put on weight. He said if I put on any more weight he will leave. He is already planning to get a house of his own. What am I to think?...

A.   29 October 2005: I think that if he threatens to leave you for the way you look, you shouldnt be with him. He's not the best guy. You can do better than someone who is going to judge you by your appearance.... (read in full...)

Told her how I really felt via text, but she ignored it and carried on as normal...

Q.   Recently I have been attracted to this girl. At first I thought she felt the same. However on one drunken night I let her know how I felt (via text). She replied but her reaction was to pretty much ignore it. Despite this she treats me the same as ...

A.   29 October 2005: i have to say that this girl probably does like you. However, i think that it is also taking some time to get over the fact that you told her how you feel. Maybe you should try talking to her in person or on the phone. Make sure that you ask her if ... (read in full...)

I discovered I'm pregnant... and the fact that my boyfriend fancies my best friend!

Q.   I have been friends with my boyfriend for about ten years; however he has said that he has always been sexually attracted to me. About a year and a half ago we got it together officially and it was so wonderful, we moved in together after six ...

A.   21 October 2005: SIT HIM DOWN AND HAVE SOME MEDIATION WITH HIM. TALK ABOUT HIS FEELING TOWARD YOUR BEST FRIEND. TALK TO HIM AND TRY TO PICTURE YOU AS HIS BEST FRIEND AND NOT HIS GIRLFRIEND. THAT WILL PROBABLY HELP ALOT. SIT THE TWO OF THEM DOWN, AND HAVE THEM BOTH ... (read in full...)

Another girl says she's pregnant with my bf's baby. He says it's not true. Trust him?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for one and half years. In beginning it wasn't very good. He cheated on me and all we did is fight. I was away for a while and he said that's when he fell in love with and has been faithful since. That's w...

A.   21 October 2005: RUMORS!!! RUMORS ARE RUMORS. YOU CANT BELIEVE EVERYTHING THAT YOU HEAR. I WOULD TRUST UR B/F. IF HE HAS BEEN FAITHFUL FOR YOU IN A WHILE, THEN I WOULD BELIEVE HIM. HE DOES" LOVE" YOU AND YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO TRUST HIM EVERYONCE IN A WHILE. IF H... (read in full...)

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