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I'm embarrassed to have sex because of my size

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Question - (6 March 2012) 3 Answers - (Newest, 7 March 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, *razyk writes:

me and my partner have been together for nearly 10 yrs things were great before now we have two children together i have put on a litl weight imsize 18 hate my body , we do have sex still mainly just basic stuff and never naked!he always wants to give me oral and i wont let him i hate my body im so self concious about it ,its really affecting things he says he doesnt care bout my body and loves me for who i am but i get so embarresed how can i over come this i love him so much and dnt want him to stray because its not exciting n e mre.please help any advise frm men would be great.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (7 March 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntHe loves YOU not your wrappings...

to be honest most men I know prefer their partners to have a bit of meat on their bones... I know my partner finds me more desirable with an extra 15 pounds... and I feel fat... and yet he loves to grab me...

if your partner is coming after you and wanting YOU that means he finds you attractive and desirable... not every man wants a bag of bones...

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A male reader, landomando United States +, writes (7 March 2012):

Diet is a major part. Stop drinking soda, if u drink coffee drink it straight instead of adding the extra sugar and cream and fat. Eat fresh foods. Cook instead of go out.. walk the dog, go for walks. Go top the gym. drink water when your hungry or thirsty.

Its not hard to do, its hard to start and stick with it. Good luck!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (6 March 2012):

Honeypie agony auntAre you working on yourself and your body image? Do you exercise? Eat healthy?

You need to accept who you are and find a way yo be the best YOU, you can be. If you feel you need to to lose weight go for it. Talk to your doctor, get help making a menu plan, look into Weight Watcher or other programs, BE PROACTIVE! there is no miracle cure. I'm not saying you have to lose wight to love yourself, but you need to realize that YOU and only you can change how YOU see yourself. Exercise gives you more energy and more endorphins (also knows and "happy" chemicals), same goes for eating right.

I think once you start working on yourself, you will start to figure out that your BF loves you for YOU. If he found you bad looking he wouldn't stick around. Not all men like skinny girls. After all he is STILL there 10 years later.

Seems to me that your man loves YOU.

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