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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the responses, to the last person that posted and answer I assume that you think I shouldnt continue this relationship because it effects my ex in your way of thinking. I got news for you Im not really concerned with continuing the role I had making sure he is happy in his future, that is no longer my responsibility. And as for his future relationships well if his new girls dont like me than thats something he has to address not me. It is his place to step up and make sure they realize I dont need them to like me. As for my relationship we are very happy and things are going just fine, my x and I get along better now than we ever did and there is no more guilt for any of us we are all happy and continuing on with our lives. Regardless of who I am married to we all realized that we are still family and are all content and happy with that. Thank you all for your answers even if some of them were off the mark.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): You may have been given your ex's blessing but none of you, him included, seem to have thought about the potential impact on his future relationships. Most women he gets involved with are going to find the prospect of the ex wife being around all the time pretty unappealing and it will sour his relationships before they get off the ground.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): Previously I would have thought that sounded like a bad thing to do...but I have recently broken up with my partner because I have feelings for his brother.Everything I read and everyone I talk too all seem to have the same theme, that it's not right. I haven't found any validation anywhere for how I am feeling, perhaps I never will.. So here is to new situations...perhaps human relationships can be more than what is currently accepted. Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for answering the question. Here is an update. We are still dating. Everyone has worked out there issues and the whole family is extremely happy. Thanks to those who answered my question without being judgemental about the situation.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 This is bad judgment on your part. I could see this on Jerry Springer. Talk about keeping it in the family, are there any uncles, cousins in line next? I could see this starting family problems all the way around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): At least you both waited till you and your EX split up. I don't see anything wrong with it unless your EX is dead against it but thats to be dealt with between the two brothers.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (13 September 2007):
Well, at least you already know the inlaws.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): Yes as time goes on, your ex will find a new girl and it will just seem natural to be with his brother. The guilt will fade as your ex gave you his blessing and you are not sneaking around behind his back. Just give it time. My friend's mom did the same thing and now is married to her ex's brother. At first there was a lot of guilt as the ex was devastated but he was an alcoholic & a bad guy so she left him. They had 3 kids togehter too. Just give it time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat doesnt really seem like an answer to my question, but thanks for your opinion. My ex and I get along just fine our marriage didnt work out because we grew apart, we fell out of love with each other. We are still friends and my ex has given us both his blessing. It may be a strange situation to some but its the situation I am in. We fell in love and are quite happy its only his guilt that is preventing true happiness for himself. I just wanted to know if it was possible for him to ever get rid of that.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (13 September 2007):
What kind of guy would date his brother's ex-wife? You seem to tend toward poor judgments. You need a close friend to talk things through with.
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reader, youcant loose what you never had!  +, writes (13 September 2007):
Why are you feeling guilty ok he’s you soon to be ex husbands brother but that’s exactly it soon to be ex!The best thing you could do is cool it of for a while with his brother I mean don’t break up just explain you need to wait a while. Because once your husband does find out which he will if you are serious about his brother then if he knows you were seeing him while or before the divorce then hell start to think maybe you were cheating on him with his own brother. Cool it off then go back to his brother that way you thought of his feelings and not just your own. But make sure you do like his brother for him and not because he’s the next best thing to your husband. Have you tried dating other people instead of his brother you may find someone else. But ok if its his brother you rely want then no I don’t think your husband would understand but to make things easier take a break from his brother while the divorce is going through and that should give you time to work out what you rely want if it is his brother then he probably wont understand but its something you’ve got to do.But take my advice and have a break and sort your feelings out to make them clear!! X
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