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writes:Hi everyone sorry if this long I just really need help trying to figure this situation out I met a man 9 month ago I moved into a flat near him in fact 30 seconds away any way he asked me out I said yes he had been single 6 month after splitting up from someone from a long term relationship he came to mine reguarly we would have a drink he would stay over I would stay at his then in conversation he said that iw was just sex for him that was it so we didn't speak for a few weeks cos I felt totally used then we started speaking again as friends and I told him I had a date he looked gutted so I cancelled my date he said he didn't blame £e the way he has treated me he said he liked me and was just taking things slow with me after 9 month I thought we would have got a bit further than what we have anyway we agreed to stay in touch and see each other more which was fine for a week but then last monday he was supposed to come see me he cancelled we made it for wednesday he cancelled again and lately each time I text him he seems like he cannot be bothered texting me back its just one or two word texts what do I do and any ideas ehat I can do I've tried talking to him but he just fobs me off I'm so confused I really like him and have no idea what is going on with him I'm so confuses thanks for any answers
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reader, Koala Bear  +, writes (16 November 2011):
 I'm so sorry this guy played you like this. He is not worth your thoughts, energy, or time of day. If he said once that he was using you, there is no going back. You are there for him at his convenience, and living near each other is quite convenient(for him not to take you out on dates). Never ever again cancel your date(s) with other men or feel bad for having other dates around. You need this for you, and he can suffer his own personal issues alone in his apartment. Good luck and have fun celebrating your life as an available young woman.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (16 November 2011):
 He is just not that into you :(
Look for another guy, this one isn't worth the hassle.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 November 2011):
I agree. He's not interested and has shown himself up as a rude and uncaring. You're better off moving on from him. He doesn't seem to have much respect for you at all.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 November 2011):
 There is nothing to be confused, if you are confused it's because you want to be, and cling to the hope this could develop into something more than it was.
He told you it was only sex. He cancels dates, he does not texts you back, he fobs you off... he is not that into you and most of all he is not into dating you ( casual sex on tap might be fine ).
You are confused because " he said... " ? Old, often repeated on DC, and always still valid advice : never mind what people SAY- people may say anything you want to hear, when they want to get something out of you. Mind what they DO: and what he does, is avoiding you and stringing you along. Once again, actions win over words hands down.
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reader, Tyedyedturtle +, writes (16 November 2011):
 He isn't interested. Not trying to be mean, but he sounds very uninterested and a bit rude. Move on.
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