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anonymous
writes:After a tough year getting divorced I am now facing a dilemma over Christmas Day. My immediate family (Mum and Dad and Sister) live 2 - 3 hours drive in different directions to me. Both want to see me on Xmas Day but... they have fallen out yet again with each other (this happens almost all the time) and both are refusing to see the other at Christmas. As a result I am being expected to decide / choose between the two and feel like I am going to upset one or the other either way whatever I do. I suggested we all meet up somewhere at a restaurant half way in terms of location for Xmas Day lunch but neither want to. I have tried to play peace-maker and feel upset because I it seems my Xmas is ruined over their behaviour. I have a boyfriend who I have only known a couple of months but our feelings are growing stronger. His family have suggested that I am welcome to join them on Xmas Day and I have to say I am very very tempted. Either that or I will spend the day on my own. I just don't know what to do. I had an unhappy marriage and wanted a 'normal' Xmas this year. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): Just curious, what will your sister planning to do? Also, are your parents divorced? It's unrealistic to expect them to spend Christmas together if they're not married anymore.
The other Aunts have good suggestions, to spend the actual holiday with your bf's family and other days with each parent individually.
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reader, Candid Cally  +, writes (15 November 2012):
If you really feel like his family is welcoming you, then go with your boyfriend for Christmas.
The only other option I can see is perhaps visit one parent on Christmas and one on New Years, or perhaps visit them on two different days close to Christmas, but don't actually spend Christmas or New Years with either.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (15 November 2012):
 Spend Christmas with your boyfriend and his family, and then go see each of your parents in the days following Christmas. That way they you treat them both equally.
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