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writes:I was dating this girl for a while, and she was amazing. She's fun, and outgoing, smart, and utterly gorgeous to boot. everything I could ask for but about 5 months into it I had a drunken folley, if you will, and the relationship ended with large loads of regret, tears, and choice words directed at yours truly. needless to say, it wasn't pretty. I was sickened by myself, how I could hurt someone as genuine as this girl so horribly. I couldn't look at myself in the mirror, which, inturn lead to small bouts of depression and self loathing. I did everything I possibly could to win her trust back, and it seemed the harder I tried the farther I pushed her. She seemed so distant, I just ended up cutting ties with her all together. We've both sort of moved on from that and its been almost a year. We've talked a little and regained an aquaintence/friendship status. not too long ago she called me and she told me that I would still be one of her best friends. Even though I would do anything just to keep her in my life, I want so much more than that friendship. I miss how we were. I recognize my dumbassedness and Im torn up inside about it. I just want to be what I used to be to her. How do I regain that status?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 November 2008):
However bad you felt, it will have hurt her SO MUCH more.
However a year has passed and she is over the pain enough to consider you a friendship.
All I can suggest is to be her friend, and try to win her back.
There is a good possibility that she will not want you back, as really how can you prove you won't do it again?
But give it a try and if she says no, then you'll just have to back off and try to get over her.
Good Luck!! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): hello hun,I'm not sure if youre going to be able to if I'm honest. From what you have said it seems like she has moved on with her life. If you still want to be in her life thats great, and so if u can handle only ever being friends I imagine you could become good friends.A year is a long time, and people change. Thats my own take on it, I wish you all the best :)
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