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writes:help me.i have fallen in love with my sister in law.i am a widower and she is the sister of my now deceased wife.she is divorced and we both have grown up children.i know that she also has feelings for me but feels that our love is wrong and will lead nowhere.how do i get her to accept our love and move forward.
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reader, soon567  +, writes (9 December 2010):
I think it should be ok, but i couldn't sleep with someone who sleeping with my sibling for years. The image of you having sex with my sister would just be a turn off.
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reader, loveistheanswer +, writes (9 December 2010):
 There is absolutely nothing wrong with this! Just as an aside, did you know that there are even passages in the Bible that say if a man dies, his brother should take his wife? Well, that's not the reason why. :) The point is that your wife is deceased, and her sister is available. In the grand scheme of things, lets say if your wife is looking down at you from heaven , she probably couldn't think of a better way for the both of you to find your happiness again. Who would she rather give you to, a complete stranger, or part of her own flesh and blood that she loves as much as she loves you?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (9 December 2010):
 I understand why she may feel it is wrong. For her it may almost feel treacherous. Do not force it upon her. If you want her to accept this love, show this love to her, offer it, slowly and without any pressure whatsoever. Let her immerse herself in it. Obviously she will most likely back away if she starts feeling more, she will fear it. Perhaps you should try and tell her that there is really nothing wrong with this. You have both lost someone close to you, someone you both held dear to your hearts. Out of respect, your Sister-in-law would wish to stay away and that is completely understandable but is it not only right in a way?
I am afraid I cannot advise you on how exactly to persuade her. Out of lack of knowledge or awareness of what is actually happening, I will need more information and you perhaps need to talk to her calmly and caringly. Seek to understand her completely.
I hope that helps.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (9 December 2010):
 You haven't said why she feels it's wrong and why it can't lead anywhere. That would help us give you decent advice.
Honestly, this sounds like it could be a very reasonable match. You've presumably known each other for some time. What, exactly, is she worried about?
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